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Hey I just wondered if anyone else felt like this? I have ALWAYS crushed on, flirted with, dated, etc. BOYS, but I feel sometimes sexually attracted to GIRLS. I feel like I'm more turned on when I see a naked woman than a naked man, but I've never felt emotionally attracted to a woman. I have a BF right now and we have a satisfying sex life. Just curious if anyone else feels this way? What does that label me as?
One more question: how did you "discover" that you were Bi or gay? What happened that led you to that conclusion?

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I'm the same. I think naked women are absolutely luscious, but having thought about this for many years and pondered if I could be bisexual, I'm sad to report that I'm just not. I'm a heterosexual girl watcher

Hope this helps,

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Firstly, do not try and label yoorself. That only leads to confusion. Simply let your feelings guide you.

Secondly, I have a theory that many straight people are sexually attracted to the same sex. However, the reason I call myself gay is because I have feelings for boys - a love beyond platonic. Hell, most of the time I can see why a girl is attractive, but it's blokes that I love.

Thirdly, there wasn't any perticular instant where I thought - Ohmygod, I'm gay! I gradually realised that I had more feelings for boys than girls. If I had to pin-point a moment, it was when I spent a whole evening trying (in vain) to chat up a bloke when there were 6 girls around!


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Well, being non-straight didn't even occur to me until I fell really hard for my best friend. Then I started to question myself, figured I was bi, then realized that I didn't really like guys (like that, at least) anyway. So, yeah. I'm gay.

When I came out to myself, I felt strangely different like ... almost free ... and I got that same feeling when I got all my hair cut off and started acting, dressing, looking, all that fun stuff like I'd always wanted to. (If your wondering, I'm FREQUENTLY mistaken for a boy, which makes public bathrooms interesting). But then I got used to it and now I'm just like, "Yeah, I'm gay. I like girls. A lot. You don't agree? Well ... go do obscene things and leave me alone."

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I've suspeceted since I was a kid that I was different to others, before I even knew what gay or straight was I thought something was up. I think the penny dropped when I went inot secondary school and I was so turned on by my science teacher, and then the next year by my other teacher(mainly her *** though, God, what an *** ) and now I'm in love again with anotehr, I've been in love with an actual prospect, someone my age but it didn't work out. I think that it gradually dawns on you that you're gay, but I mean one day I woke up and I actually realised "Oh my God I'm gay" It wasn't that I didn't know before, that was the moment it sunk in and I accepted it instead of fighting it and making myself more unhappy by the moment. I mean I fantasise about men sometimes and I'm not going to say I'm bi because I don't really like labels that much and I don't want to commit myself to one or anything. And I know this post had a point but I really don;t know what it was so bye bye now


Do not try to find out who I am, I am a shadow and you are the light, wherever you are I cannot be...

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My mom is the innocent type(kind of. Sort of), so she always told me I'd like guys when I turned 58 or something, so I never really worried about it much. Then there's The Story.

One day my friend and I were going skiing, and on the chairlift he asks me point-blank: "Are you gay?" I almost plummeted to my death twenty feet below. I suppose this is rather odd, but I just kind of said to myself later that he was right. I'm just gonna skip over the crying my eyes out, I don't like to remember that.

And, DrQuack5, I understand the mistaken identity thing. Every time I go into a bathroom I'm told that I'm making a mistake. The greatest incident was when I was coming out of a bathroom, and this woman ran into me on her way in, but instead of just saying excuse me, she got all flustered and turned to the other bathroom, which was clearly marked MEN.

"I never said I was a boy." - Tenoh Haruka, episode 92, Bishoujo Senshi Sailormoon

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