i've been talking to this girl on the internet and phone almost everyday for almost 2 years now. i've never been this close to a girl, not even with my best friend of 9 years. anyways, recently (heh...last night) she told me that she loved me and that she was questioning her whole sexuality because of this. it's weird cuz a few days before she told me this, i dreamt that we met and there was kissing and stuff...not any normal friendly greeting. She's a beautiful, brilliant girl and i feel sad when i'm on vacation and can't talk to her. I've never missed another girl in my life...so it's a little confusing. Sometimes I wonder if maybe i love her more than friends. The words "bisexual" and "lesbian" don't scare me at all...but maybe they should. I consider myself straight..i never had a crush on another girl or looked at them in that way, i like guys but i think if i really do love her and she loves me, it wouldn't feel right to try to ignore that because of gender. does this make me a bisexual?
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I'm glad the words bisexual and lesbian don't scare you, but why do you say maybe they should? They're not scary words, only labels.
Okay, now for your question... questioning your sexuality is often a long, complicated process, and that makes it difficult for someone who barely knows you to judge whether or not you're bisexual. Since you're having semi-romantic feelings for someone of the same sex, I'd have to say it's possible, but it could also just be an isolated exception to your straightness, or an experiment, or maybe one day you'll become a full-fledged lesbian. But really, there ought to be no rush to label yourself... it's kind of fun to be "free" for a while, in my experience!
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