For two years, I've been having adventures in "I'm a somewhat bi-gayish maybe teen" land. Ever since the idea that I "could" be gay occured to me, it's been a prevalent issue in my mind. So here comes my weird question. Why does it make me feel (dare I say it?) - happy - when I just start going with the "I'm gay and that's okay" vibe? I watched "All Over Me", got wildly turned on by both Leisha and Alison, and felt happy about it. I get the guts to wear the rainbow bracelet I made... I feel happy. I have a crush on a fun girl in my thespian troupe... I feel happy. I don't want to *not* feel happy, but it strikes me as odd... when I start wondering if I should be attracted to Antonio Banderas on Jay Leno, I am not happy. What does all this mean? Is the happiness telling me I'm gay, or am I just happy because I can claim a label? Or am I just plain... happy? (I've never written this word this many times before... eeee...) Anyway, I'd appreciate an answer to my crazy question
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Well, I think that you should feel happy because you like who you are. Umm...I feel happy being me and liking both girls and guys. And I think that people are happy because they accept who they are(does that make sense?). So its not "weird" to be happy about who you are if your gay. Or straight. Or whatever. I think that denying who u are makes u not happy or something. I don't know. So be HAPPY!!! YEA FOR HAPPINESS! *Kat*
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A little bit over a year ago, I got my hair cut short. Short enough to be frequently mistaken for a boy. A few months before that (the hair cut), I accepted myself as gay. The day that my hair was cut, I was so incredibly happy with everything. And I think it was because I was finally me and not forcing myself into a sterotype of a typical teenage girl.
I think you may be so happy because you're accepting yourself for who you are pretty much and you're happy with yourself.
dude, sounds like me. I always feel all *warm and fuzzy inside* heh, when i think about grrls and stuff. I'd just go with the flow and let things happen. grrls are great. i think most women are really bisexual and they just dont realize it. its a sad sad thing. experimenting is the best way to go. have fun. rock on. Posts: 4 | From: ann arbor, mi, usa | Registered: Aug 2001
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I think you feel happy about those things the same way I feel happy when I'm around my non-hetero friends. Mostly it's becaue I know that this proves that I accept who I am and like who I am, and I can be myself without worrying about the acceptance of others.
Figuring out who you are and then *liking* that person are things to be happy about babe.
And by the way, welcome to scarleteen
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All Over Me affected me the same way, and I regularily listen to Leisha's music (she's in a band called the Murmurs, you should check them out, especially 'Echoing'), so I see nothing weird about that. Really, anything that makes you feel comfortable with who you are should make you happy, but that doesn't mean that how other people interpret who you are will make you feel the same way. And feeling that you're being forced to conform to ideas inappropriate for you is never going to feel right. I don't see any problem here. And do remember, you hardly need to be queer to be queer-friendly, and I think queer-friendly's a great way to be, so regardless of what your orientation is, I think you're right to be happy.
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