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Rio
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This is probably going to sound like a really dumb question. What exactly is attraction physical, sexual, et cetera?
I've found myself a bit puzzled over this for quite a while. If someone could answer this it would be lovely.

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Gaffer
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Actually, I don't think this is a stupid question because I don't know how to answer it.

I think attraction is a combination of liking the physical and mental aspects of a person combined with something else--a spark of some sort. Something to do with the biology or psychology or soul of the person one is attracted to that triggers the admiration to be attraction.

Maybe I'm talking about love which, I think, is different from attraction. Hmmmmm.


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Lin
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I would say attraction is something that draws you to somebody or some part of somebody.

Geez. That didn't sound too helpful.


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Ooh. Toughie.

Hmm. Attraction is, IMO, a very fluid thing, which can be heavily influenced by mood, circumstance, and outlook on life, and it occurs when you find something which you want, or admire, such as: someone stable when you are shaky (or stable when you are also stable to keep yourself that way...) or of a like mind to you... As far as physical attraction, that's largely governed by A) what you've decided you like physically in a person, which is B) heavily influenced in some way by society. For instance most people seem to like blondes and I don't generally find them to fall into what I would generally look for in a partner, and I think partially it is because my brain is going: enough people already want these people...why do I have to play into that? (Although I'm really not shallow enough for looks to even be a big criteria but we all make value judgments, particularly when seeking a mate/partner.) So you can end up attracted to the opposite of what society says, but it's still being influenced by that.

And when it all comes down to it attraction (and love, some people would say) are all chemical reactions...

I probably didn't cover all the bases but I did try.

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