I started questioning my sexual orientation when I was 9. I stopped for a few years, and then realized that I was definitely queer when I was 12. I came out pretty immediately. First I went online and talked to people about it anonymously for a few weeks, and then I told my best friend. A few weeks later I told the rest of my circle of friends. And then about two months after that I told my family. By the end of 7th grade, I was out to the world.
Okay, okay, I know I was soooooooo young. Like extremely freakishly young although it didn't seem that odd at the time. I came out to others really soon after I came out to myself. I often wonder if I could have gained something from staying in the closet for another year or so like everyone else I know did. For a long time after I came out, everyone told me it was just a phase. I still get strange looks from people when I tell them that I came out at twelve.
I also know people who didn't come out until they were in their twenties, and their experiences are obviously very different from mine. It would also vary by whether they knew when they were young and just kept it a secret, or whether they honestly had no idea.
What are your experiences with coming out at various ages? Do you think it makes a difference how old you are? Or how long you wait after you figure it out for yourself?
When I was 12 I came out to a girl online. From then on, I hinted to the real world of my queerness, and came out to some.
In a way, I think it was too early, because I'm now in a straight relationship. I feel like people may think I was lying before. Shrug. On the other hand, that is how I felt at the time, and I still wouldn't call myself straight. So what do I care?
ive been suspecting i was bi for a year or two and im 13 now i just recently decideed that i definatly was though now that i think about i had actually known as long as i suspected it but didnt want to lable myself... i still havent "come out" i really dont think anyone would believe me. at least not for a couple of years they all think im too young to know. i have been thinking of telling my best friend who is very open minded and suspects herself to be bi so ill tell you how it goes
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