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I have two questions. I would like to know if I would be considered bisexual if I just had sex with another female? Though I haven't experienced this yet, I would like to.
And my second question is how would you be able to find or tell if another girl is bisexual or a lesbian if they were someone you did not know?

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If you JUST had sex with her? I think that is a very emotional step in a relationship dont you? The question is thou, would you consider YOURSELF to be bisexual? Is about what you and how you feel about this situation, nobody can awnser that but you.

Read some of the things in this forum about bisexuality, its good stuff!
Here is a website you can go to and read about it:

It will tell you what bisexuality and homosexuality is.

Your second question, I cant help you with (sowwys) Miz S, might be able to give you some websites thou.

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The only way to tell if someone is gay, lesbian, bisexual, or straight is if they tell you. There is no secret handshake, no special tattoo, beanie, wallet card, or any other way to tell.

As for whether a person is bisexual if they've had same-sex sexual activity? Not necessarily. Sexual orientation is about how YOU feel you identify and what is important to YOU, not necessarily just what you've done with your plumbing. In fact, you don't ever have to have sex with ANYONE of ANY gender in order to know who you're attracted to.

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all the term bisexuality is is a label to give yourself if you really feel that you need one.. but having sex with one girl doesn't make you bisexual just as having sex with one guy doesn't make you straight or definitly not gay. It's all about what you feel, and it is also possible for your sexuality (or believed sexuality) to change over any amount of time (some people experiment when they're young and consider themselves "straight" when they are older while others wait until they are married and settled down to actually come out to themselves and realize they are attracted to others of the same sex. My suggestion is: don't stress out about labeling yourself so much, and don't jump into any "sex' just for the purposes of finding out. Sex is a very emotional thing whether you think you are a "strong" person or not and beside the emotional problems it can cause there are a large number of health reasons not to "just" have sex. Now- i'm not saying that if you find the right person you shouldn't do it-- but don't jump into anything. It's hard to find others who are interested/curious/gay/bi but believe me, they're out there. You could check out online personal sites like or or just hope that someone you're already close buddies with feels the same way. If you don't find anyone, don't fret. You've got a long life ahead of you and plenty of time to figure things out.
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