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Well today's a beuatiful day so I spent a lot of time outside smelling the fresh air and thinking and such and I came up with one little comment and one little question.

Comment: Okay, I was having a discussion in PE about how our school is considered 'the dyke school' and since then these two gurlies that I'm pretty sure are going out have been giving me attitude. I'm trying to figure out what their problem is since I haven't been happy lately (they make fun of me for being happy!!) and I realized it. Uh-oh. They probably think I mean dyke in a derogatory way, since basically no one realizes who I am and what I am.

Do you think it's derogatory when people say dyke? Any experiences about prejudice would be interesting to hear...

Second thing is thanks to I met a chica who lives in my area and we've been talking online and she asked if I was going to 'the center' So now I have directions and stuff to the gay and lesbian community center and I know that every Thurs they have a youth group for GBLTQ teens. Then I realized another parents don't know about me and how am I going to explain why they're taking me to a GBLTQ youth group? (A while ago we were talking about a bi guy at my school and basically my parents say you're too young to decide what you are and I say that why is it you are never too young to be hetero?) and I'm not in the mood to have that conversation again.

So are you out? To who? How'd you do it and how did they react?

Let's see if we get anything interesting


I'm the good girl that everyone thinks is a bad girl pretending to be a good girl :D

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Obviously, I'm more than out. I write about sexuality and my own sexuality to thousands of readers a day.

My first consensual sexual experience was with a girl, followed very shortly by a boy, and I liked them both, and I was very young. So, not having been raised with any real strong gender roles in my family, nor any biases aginst bisexuality, it was simply the way I developed. I didn't even know there was a term for it until I got to high school, at which point iwas just sort of a no-brainer.

This sort of thing just never really came up with my mother. She was comfortable talking about sexuality with me, but not on a personal level, and it still doesn't get discussed a lot (and she has been living with a female partner for years). It's just very private with her.

With my father, it was a bit funny, really. In high school, I brought a platonic girlfriend of mine home once, and after she left, my father just bluntly said (you see where I get this from), "So, you guys are an intem, eh?" To which my response was, "NO, but the girl I brought home last night and I am." Dad says, "Oh, I guessed wrong. Huh." End coming out. Needless to say, it's wasn't the stuff of high drama. Really, in my family, it's just a non-issue.

Glad to hear you found yourself a community group, Brittany. It's great to find social situations that double as community activism, in my experience.
As for your parental units, do what feels best.

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Well, I use "dyke" all the time, and it's one of the few terms I will use to label myself. In fact, I went to a frat party last Saturday with "Dyke" on the front of my shirt. I like it so much because it's more open than "lesbian" (I am not strictly homosexual), but more convenient than "bisexual". However, it is often used in a derogatory way (like... homophobes yelling "dyke!" at a girl, or just as an insult). I think us queers (another word I like) can reclaim "dyke".
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