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rachbabyxox
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Hi. I'm a teenager and a lesbian. I came out to some people, and I know I like girls. But whenever it comes to being confronted or questioned about my sexuality, I get embarrassed and I feel guilty. Why is this happening?
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Heather
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Any sense of what it is you feel guilty about?

In terms of feeling embarrassed, that might be a bit easier to suss out. After all, much of our sexuality is private, so if people we are not already close to are asking us questions about something so personal, we will often feel flustered, or even violated.

Are the people asking you about your sexuality or orientation the kind of people you already share, and willingly, intimate things with?

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OhImpecuniousOne
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It's interesting that you said "confronted or questioned" - are you talking about people suggesting that you're not really gay, or demanding that you prove it or something? 'Cause I can totally understand that being embarrassing, and it's really rude of them.

I once told a guy I'd known a little while that I was bi, and he responded "Oh, so you're bi-curious?" I was really quite pissed at that, and I'm quite proud that I responded "No, I -know- I'm bi" (the cider probably had something to do with that). If I hadn't, I'm sure I'd have suffered from retroactive embarrassment and a large dose of staircase wit.

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