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Im 16. Do you see anything wrong with a 13 year age gap?! My boyfriend is 29. I love him lots [Smile]


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Hi Selena,

There can be a few things to consider.

1) Age of *sexual* consent: This is the age at which you can legally consent to sex. If you have sex under that age, your boyfriend can get in a lot of legal trouble as per the law if he gets reported.
2) Level of experience and maturity

Does that help? Also remember in the LGBT community, it is more proportionately affected by established population statistics (e.g. in your case, that the population is aging).
This post may also help you out: Age-disparate basics (Does age matter?)

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I'm in a long distance relation ship (we met on the internet, never met in real life yet) with five years' difference, I haven't seen much conflict with my girlfriend and I yet.

A lot of it has to do with maturity (and when it comes to sex, legal issues), if you are very mature for your age and responsible and he is similarily mature and responsible, I don't see a problem.

In 10 years, it wouldn't be much of a problem at all, however, in teen years you have to be very careful, because people grow so much so quickly. One common problem with high age difference couples is again, sex. With the amount of experience the older member might have, things could move faster than the younger member expected, and consent start breaking away with that. Be very clear with boundaries, with good communication almost any relationship can work as far as I know!

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