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Haya so I dont normally post on this i just read but Im very confused though and need to ask ( even though Im embarassed)..

So Im an 18 year old girl in college and the furthest ive ever gone with anyone is just kissing ( all with guys). The thing is is that I watch some lesbian porn and does that mean I'm most likely bi sexual or just curious/experimental ? When I watch girls together I get really really turned on and I masturbate.

In the long run I couldnt imagine being with a girl like i really love guys too . I think I would love to kiss and do more with a woman but I know I prefere men.

Im so confused cos I havnt had sex with anyone and Im getting worried I am bisexual ??

Please please help


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Amy, have you seen this article yet?
Q is for Questioning

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I think your just curious. Maybe Bi-curious. its normal, you can be straight but still have thoughts about same sex activities. if your confused explore your options, By that i mean experiment. best way to know if your gay, straight, or bisexual.

And for your information i am Male (gay)and 14. my preferences are men at this point at time, my preferences may change in the future they may not.
since im also a virgin IM not completely sure about this. so m advice to you would be to try out sex on both ends. or even on one end.. dont feel afraid to expirement.

Sorry if this is rambling, and sorry if this isnt much help, but i felt like i need to post something since no one else posted yet.. ^^ hope i helped just a little

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Magileo: just so you know, we can have sex with a given person, and mostly what that tells us is how we feel about sex with THAT one person. One person can't represent a whole gender, so having sex with someone isn't often going to tell someone what their sexual orientation is.

Sexual orientation is really about our feelings of attraction -- emotional and sexual -- for people of given genders. We can know our own feelings whether we have sex or not.

For sure, if someone wants to be sexual with other people, and that's part of their exploration, that's fine, but the point is that no one needs to do that if they don't feel comfortable with it, and what that can't do is give any kind of easy or definite answers for someone about their orientation. [Smile]

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i think the real question is can u see urself with a girl? Can u picture bein with a girl, or doin stuff with her? If no, then dont worry bout it. But if maybe yes, then you could be bi. Just see how ur feelings progress. And its really not that scary to be bi, honest, so u shouldnt be worried however it works out.
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