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sweet_etcetera
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I recently started dating a girl for the first time, and I'm kinda worried about our sex life.

I've slept with several guys before, and found it easy to get off with my last partner, who was male. We had a lot of sexual chemistry, but no emotional connection. But this new relationship of mine is the opposite: I am absolutely MAD about her and I think she's incredibly smart and beautiful. But we can't seem to figure out what works sexually, between the two of us.

We've only been together a month, and we're both very new to this whole thing. She's really new to sex in general, and is so shy about doing anything with me and prefers me to initiate everything because I'm "more experienced." But I've been having lots of sex with dudes this entire time! Totally different ball game! (...Heh-heh.)

I've been able to get her off easily, but for me it's different. I get really excited by someone who's really confident and a little rough around the edges. I like someone to take charge once in a while. She is... not like that. She gets really shy about touching me and says she's afraid she doesn't know what to do. I want her to open up more, but I don't want her to put on some kind of facade for me. What should we do?

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OWL Dan
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Welcome,

Your situation really isn’t any different than any other relationship with a new partner. One of the most important ways to start working on this is good communication. Please look over this article and see if it helps. Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner
Let us know if this helps or if there is any thing further we can help you with.

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sweet_etcetera
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Thanks a lot!! I tried using some of the pointers and it made me realize a lot of things that I wasn't saying myself. Needless to say it's something we're both working on, in fact we spent a long time talking about it and things are going pretty well! Thanks again, you all are the best [Smile]

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That's great to hear and you're welcome!

Let us know if there is anything else we can help with.

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