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curiousgirl95
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ok im not sure of my sexualtity. ive done things with girls but i havnt really had feeling for them or been in a realtionship. ive gone all the way with a girl but we didnt use....items. it was just our crotches on eachothers and humping. it was really nice and i started to get wet one time so i tried to old it back so nothing would come out. im a young teenager so im confused so would that be considered sex?
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Karybu
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Have a read through these, and then come on back and we can talk some more about this, okay?

Q is for Questioning
What's Sex?
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/is_it_normal_for_girls_to_experiment_with_sex_together_when_theyre_not_lesbian

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curiousgirl95
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that didnt really help. do you have anymore advise?
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Karybu
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Can you be a little bit more specific about your question, then? I guess I'm not totally clear on what you were asking.

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curiousgirl95
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ok well im not sure if two naked girls humping eachother.....well if scissoring is considered sex.
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CoatRack
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There is no widely accepted definition of what sex is; that rings even more true when you are talking about two female bodied/female identified women.

Can I ask why you are asking?

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Too, have you read through that second article I linked you to? It goes into that question in a fairly in-depth way, so you may find it helpful.

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curiousgirl95
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Andy, i am asking because i have done it with a girl and i am 90% sure that i am straight. i wasnt sure if it is really sex.
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Sexuality doesn't just mean "who you have sex with." Having had sex with a man doesn't make a woman straight, and having sex with another woman doesn't make her gay, or mean that she is gay. Many people know who they are attracted to way before they have sex with anybody.

Is it normal for girls to experiment with sex together when they're not lesbian? is a good article. Take a look; it may answer some of your questions.

[ 01-24-2011, 06:52 AM: Message edited by: CoatRack ]

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thanks. i had. dream once and i told my friend that is bi abou it and she said it was the same type of dream she had before she turned bi and told me that i should experiment. the dream was about her so i kinda figured i should experiment on her but she moved to Florida so i dont know what to do now.
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Well, dreams don't "turn" people bi or gay or anything else. Dreams are just that: dreams. Sometimes they can clue us into things we might be thinking about but more often they are abstract. So I wouldn't put very much thought or rely too much on that dream to tell you anything.

If your interested this article serves as something of a primer about how somebody knows if they are LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer):
The Bees and.... the Bees.

Why don't you have a look and then if you have questions we can talk some more?

[ 01-24-2011, 02:46 PM: Message edited by: CoatRack ]

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thanks. but should i experiment to see if i am bi/gay? and if so how should i do that?
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People aren't experiments, and a lot of people don't tend to appreciate being sexually experimented with so someone can find something out about themselves, you know?

Plus, you could have sex with one or two women and all that would likely tell you is if you liked having sex with those one or two women.

The sounder way to go about this is just to listen to your own feelings and give this lots of time, where you simply observe what relationships you want to pursue, and when you have them -- hopefully for reasons other than finding out what your orientation might be -- seeing how you feel in them over time.

Our sexual identity really is a lifelong process. We can never have the answer of who we are sexually and who we will be for a lifetime at one given time: we can only ever know who we are and feel like so far.

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sort of confusing but....okayy
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Do you want to talk about what you find confusing about what has been said?

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