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Hailey3638
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I'm a 16 year old Pansexual girl (I go off personality and not gender or looks) and I've been dating my girlfriend for going on 5 months now. I'm seriously head over heels for the girl, but there's a problem.
We recently started having sex and.. well.. I can always make her orgasm.. but.. Everytime she tries to make me orgasm, at the most I get close.. but even that is rare. I'm very much so attracted to her.. but.. I'm worried. Please Help!

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Heather
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Do you reach orgasm on your own, via masturbation?

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Ste-Funnie
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What's Pansexual?

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I'm very gay for being a lesbian, and not gay to be what I'm not

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Heather
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Pansexual is a word that some people use instead of bisexual or queer. Generally, it means that someone can be attracted to all sexes or genders, and not just on the binary (cis gender men or women).

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Hailey3638
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Yeah, I can.. ya know, get there by myself but it's really bothering me that she can never seem to get me there..
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Heather
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Well, five months is still a fairly new relationship, so sometimes you gotta be patient. [Smile]

Have you shown her what you do yourself that gets you there? Or masturbated with her?

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Hailey3638
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Well, no.. but I think we're both too embarrassed to do that <XD; I told her where and how.. but still nothing.
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Heather
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Well, that all by itself probably gives you a good cue: if that feels really embarassing or like you aren't there yet, you just might not feel comfortable enough yet with her to reach orgasm or kind of really go the full range of your sexual response.

Telling sometimes also only gets us so far: sometimes, showing has a lot more mileage.

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Hailey3638
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Alright, thanks so much!
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