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Ste-Funnie
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I am sexually attracted to girls and I'd give away my hair dryer to have sex with a girl. The problem is, I do know you can get STDs from a girl. The thing is, there are female condoms, but those are for vaginal. But if I'm having penetration with a girl, I wont need one, b/c I'm only using a dildo. Well, unless its a used dilo, only I don't use used ones. But say if I'm having oral, well, to protect it if you're doing it with a guy, you just use flavor condoms (and I dont wanna have sex with men). But like, how am I supposed to protect from STDs if I hook up with a woman? Cuz like, female condoms are for vaginal, b/c the female condums go all the way up to the cervix. Plus, I don't think me or the girl would enjoy it if we use that. I was hoping someone can give me some tips/ideas/advice.

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Heather
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Our safer sex guide is for everyone, regardless of orientation (because that really is a non-issue with safer sex), and includes information about sex toys: Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To

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[Edit: Oops, Heather beat me to it [Razz] ]

[ 12-23-2010, 09:46 PM: Message edited by: blysse_norwood ]

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Ste-Funnie
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Um no offense Heather, but this isn't helping me. What I was asking was, what is a good protection for (I forgot what the word is for eating a girl out). I'm talking about giving a girl oral. How I can do it safely?

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Heather
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No offense taken.

Here's a couple segments from that piece for you:

The basics of safer sex for everyone:

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What does best reduce STI risks?

Not having any kind of sex with other people. This is the ONLY situation in which we can say there is NO risk of sexually acquiring an STI. (However, it's important to note that if we have been sexually abused or assaulted, that choice has been taken from us, so even though we did not choose for someone else to have sexual contact with us, we may still have been at risk.)
OR, if you want to have sex with others, these three things combined:

1. To use barriers correctly and consistently for any and all oral, vaginal or anal sex for at least the first six months of any sexual relationship.
2. For all partners to get at least one new, full round of STI testing 3-6 months into a relationship if it continues for that long, then keep testing once a year.
3. For all partners to do their best to follow some or all of the lifestyle guidelines listed below in this article.

And on protection per barriers when giving someone with a vulva oral sex:

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Cunnilingus (going down/eating out): Dental dam or saran wrap barrier, lubricant (on the inside)

Dental dams. Dental dams are thin squares of latex used by holding in place over a vulva or anus. You can also make a dam with a condom latex or nonlatex and a pair of scissors: just cut across the condom from base to tip and voila! If you take a latex glove and cut the fingers off, then cut across the back (non-thumb) edge, that's another way to make a dam: you can put a tongue in the thumb hole if that works best.

If that is less than what you need, give me some clues? Do you need help using dams, for instance? If so, want to fill me in on what's been tricky/problematic for you in the past?

[ 12-24-2010, 08:58 AM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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Ste-Funnie
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Thank you so much!

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