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Smiler
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Basically ive been talkin to this lass for a long time and were both in jazz bands. She is openly gay and in a relationship, where as im kinda sitting on the fence, in the closet, in a relationship with a boy. Ive known for a while that i wasnt completely straight, it just wasnt possible for me.

But there was a competiton on the other day and we hung out for abit on and off. I know that she likes me and by the end of the evening we were hugging and being discret and that. Since my mum was there and didnt know.

The thing is, as soon as i left i was gutted. I just wanted to be with her. And now when my boyfriend texts i just cant be bothered with him. I think in all honesty i would drop my relationship to be with her. But we live a canny distance away. And then theres the problem of telling everyone

Im REALLY confused and dont know what to do :/

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Karybu
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Well, she's in a relationship, so unless she and her partner have an agreement that means they can both date other people as well, then there really isn't much you can do, unfortunately. Also, your relationship with your boyfriend is pretty much a separate issue here - evaluating a current relationship on the basis of "what might be" with someone else isn't really sound. Looking at your other posts, I hear you saying that you aren't really all that sexually/romantically attracted to your boyfriend, so that is something to consider, for sure, but you need to consider whether your current relationship is working or not regardless of your attraction to someone else.

Have you talked to her about all this? What about talking it over with your boyfriend?

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Smiler
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Yeah she likes me and isnt happy in her relationship, weve talked about it quite abit. She spent all day with me rather than her girlfriend and didnt want me to leave when i did.

My boyfriend was getting back from his holiday the same week, and i was more looking forward to seeing her at the competition. And no im really not sexually attracted to him :/ which makes me feel bad, because for a while i thought i liked him.

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