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Im a new user to this site and find the help that is provided is great [Smile] so i thought id post another artcile as the advice really helps.

Im sure there are so many of these kinds of articles you guys get bored. Its the whole 'think im gay, bi, lesbian, dont wanna be'.
So basically im 16 and currently in a relationship with a lad that ive liked for awhile. We get on great and do occasionally have an arguement but its normal. We share kisses and that and he has told me he would like to lose his virginity to me. I thought it was the sweetest thing that he could open up to me like that. But the truth is i dont feel the same way :/ The thought of getting sexual with a lad freaks me out, like completely.
But on the other hand i have dreams and fantasies about being sexual with a girl, and if i have to say so it does turn me on. I have once been in a short relationship with a girl, but i ended it because we lived too far apart and i wasnt ready to accept anything.

But at the same time it really freaks me out, because im straight, or so i thought. I have gay and lesbian friends and im totally comfortable with them, i put up with the flirts because its who they are. I know my parents wouldnt accept anything different even though they accept others for being gay. But i dont want be anything but me, so i am bi-sexual??

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Glad we've been of help to you! [Smile]

Well, you get to call yourself whatever feels most true to you.

if you want some language, the world most certainly is not just made of people who are straight (heterosexual) or gay/lesbian (homosexual). There are also a lot of people who are bisexual, pansexual or queer: you don't fit in those boxes, and who tend to be attracted not just to one sex or gender of person, but to a mix. Which of those words you use -- if any -- is really about your pen preferences.

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