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I realize that this is a site for teens (I am one) and I definitely don't want to breech anything terms or anything but I am really confused.

I have been with my girlfriend on and off for almost a year. And we are great together I've posted before and distance is what killed us but we are really working on things. The problem is normally with her I have a very HIGH sex drive. However the last two weeks I have just not wanted to do anything. I mean I've seen her naked and I don't really even notice, I can honestly say I didn't check her out or anything I just talked to her and looked at her face while she got dressed or what have you. I love her very much and I have never been so comfortable with anyone else. But I just don't know what's wrong or how to fix it. We've sorta talked and she said it's not a big deal whatsoever she doesn't care as long as we're together. But to go from all the time to nothing, just doesn't seem to make sense to me.

Any suggestions or advice?


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For most people, our libidos will wax and wane some, so absolutely, we can have periods of time where we want sex with a partner daily or weekly, then have times of days, weeks or months where we don't feel that interest. Maybe this hasn't happened for you in your life until now, but this likely won't be the only time it happens.

That happens for a whole host of reasons, but one of many it can be about is relationship issues. You express you have recently had some issues which you are working on now, and it may be that those issues and the process of working them has simply resulted in a libido change for you right now.

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Well the problems are basically resolved and extinct we did have problems but this loss of sex drive came after we got back together and I am so happy now but it never was a problem before whether we were having problems or not.
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I'm happy to hear that things worked out, Lifeisconfusing13! [Smile] In addition to Heather's great advice, I wanted to share a related article: Sexual Negotiation for the Long Haul
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