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I just wanted to put a reminder in this area expressly for heterosexual and/or cisgender users posting in it.
Please bear in mind that when you're posting in this area of the boards -- well, and at the boards period -- that not only does this need to be a safe space for our GLBT users primarily, but that some of our volunteers and staff who answer here and elsewhere are also GLBT (including myself).
So, when we're engaging in conversations, especially where any of us make clear that we are in that group, doing things like talking about GLBT people as an external group, or as people who are not right here, often talking to you and helping you out, can be or become insensitive and disrespectful. Overall, all of the users who post at Scarleteen are such a great group, and I feel confident no one means to be so sometimes, but it still happens. A lot of why, of course, is probably because you're not a member of that group yourself, and also because it tends to take time to unlearn heterosexism or ideas about binary gender that most of us, including those of us who are GLBT, are reared with and have enabled in our lives and world every day.
So, just be sure you're treading light when and if you're posting in here, okay? As well, if and when a GLBT person calls out something like heterosexism, please bear in mind we usually do so with the best intention (making the world more inclusive and safe for all of us), and that we also may have an awareness of that you may not because we are often more negatively impacted by it, just like someone of color often will have a keener eye for racism when it's present than those of us who are not of color.
Straight/cisgender allies are absolutely welcome here, and we're glad to have you, it's just important that Scarleteen as a whole, and particularly this area, be as safe a space as it can for GLBT.
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quote:Originally posted by Heather: I just wanted to put a reminder in this area expressly for heterosexual and/or cisgender users posting in it.
Please bear in mind that when you're posting in this area of the boards -- well, and at the boards period -- that not only does this need to be a safe space for our GLBT users primarily, but that some of our volunteers and staff who answer here and elsewhere are also GLBT (including myself).
So, when we're engaging in conversations, especially where any of us make clear that we are in that group, doing things like talking about GLBT people as an external group, or as people who are not right here, often talking to you and helping you out, can be or become insensitive and disrespectful. Overall, all of the users who post at Scarleteen are such a great group, and I feel confident no one means to be so sometimes, but it still happens. A lot of why, of course, is probably because you're not a member of that group yourself, and also because it tends to take time to unlearn heterosexism or ideas about binary gender that most of us, including those of us who are GLBT, are reared with and have enabled in our lives and world every day.
So, just be sure you're treading light when and if you're posting in here, okay? As well, if and when a GLBT person calls out something like heterosexism, please bear in mind we usually do so with the best intention (making the world more inclusive and safe for all of us), and that we also may have an awareness of that you may not because we are often more negatively impacted by it, just like someone of color often will have a keener eye for racism when it's present than those of us who are not of color.
Straight/cisgender allies are absolutely welcome here, and we're glad to have you, it's just important that Scarleteen as a whole, and particularly this area, be as safe a space as it can for GLBT.
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i'm a 15 year old bisexual girl and i have a girlfriend. we've gone so far in our relationship but i want more... How do i go about asking her about sex?
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