Donate Now
Post New Topic  Post A Reply
my profile | directory login | register | search | faq | forum home

  next oldest topic   next newest topic
» Got Questions? Get Answers. » SCARLETEEN CENTRAL » LGBTQA Relationships » What makes a relationship Queer?

 - UBBFriend: Email this page to someone!    
Author Topic: What makes a relationship Queer?
PenguinBoy
Activist
Member # 28394

Icon 1 posted      Profile for PenguinBoy     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Yes, what makes a relationship queer?

Is it people's attitudes?

Their genders? Their sexualities?

I can imagine it means something different for different people so I suppose... What does it mean to you?

--------------------
Jacob - my Scarleteen Blog - Please help sustain scarleteen

Posts: 633 | From: Bedfordshire, UK | Registered: Apr 2006  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
eryn_smiles
Peer Ambassador
Member # 35643

Icon 1 posted      Profile for eryn_smiles         Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
I think..it's a queer relationship if one or both people consider themselves to be queer. I was wondering though, if a heterosexual relationship can ever be queer? Or is it the opposite?

--------------------
"Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation and that is an act of political warfare."

Audre Lorde

Posts: 1326 | Registered: Nov 2007  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
Idir
Activist
Member # 41176

Icon 1 posted      Profile for Idir     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Well, I don't really see queer relationships and straight relationships.
I see queer people and straight people; and relationships. It also depends on whether you're talking about queer in the traditional meaning, queer as in LGBT, or queer as in the über-politicized term...

--------------------
I know there is an over the rainbow for me.

Posts: 84 | From: Algeria | Registered: Nov 2008  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
Heather
Executive Director & Founder
Member # 3

Icon 1 posted      Profile for Heather     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote 
Good question...but lordisa, I don't know how to answer it.

As someone who has been queer (and by this I mean attracted to and involved with people of a diverse array of sex and gender, and also as someone who tends to conduct her relationships in a way often outside heteronormative/gendernormative ideals and dynamics) for as long as I can remember being anything, even at times when I'm in relationship with someone of the opposite sex, it never feels right to call it a heterosexual relationship because I'm not, nor have I ever been, heterosexual (and they also may not be, and usually have not been, but even if they were, I'm still not).

In other words, as a queer person, if someone is in sexual/romantic relationship to me, they're not in a straight relationship.

[ 04-22-2009, 09:35 AM: Message edited by: Heather ]

--------------------
Heather Corinna, Executive Director & Founder, Scarleteen
About MeGet our book!
Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. - Margaret Mead

Posts: 67067 | From: An island near Seattle | Registered: May 2000  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
   

Quick Reply
Message:

HTML is not enabled.
UBB Code™ is enabled.

Instant Graemlins
   


Post New Topic  Post A Reply Close Topic   Feature Topic   Move Topic   Delete Topic next oldest topic   next newest topic
 - Printer-friendly view of this topic
Hop To:


Contact Us | Get the Whole Story! Go Home to SCARLETEEN: Sex Ed for the Real World | Privacy Statement

Copyright 1998, 2014 Heather Corinna/Scarleteen
Scarleteen.com: Providing comprehensive sex education online to teens and young adults worldwide since 1998

Information on this site is provided for educational purposes. It is not meant to and cannot substitute for advice or care provided by an in-person medical professional. The information contained herein is not meant to be used to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease, or for prescribing any medication. You should always consult your own healthcare provider if you have a health problem or medical condition.

Powered by UBB.classic™ 6.7.3