I've heard people talk about Gay Identity or more broadly about Queer Identity... people often use it to describe aspects of themselves which help them identify as queer but extend beyond actual sexual orientation... to me this can mean bad (imo) things like aggressive stereotypical traits that can get adopted and re-enacted and also good things like fashion, art, poetry; culture.
But how important or not is queer identity, either in general or specifically to you?
To be perfectly frank, I don't really know how I'd even discern what parts of my identity are about my being queer and what parts aren't.
I mean, I've been queer for about as long as I've been anything, very knowingly. But too, I have no way of knowing (and honestly doubt it, really, since just as many straight people have these aspects of personality or preferences) if, for instance, my being artistic or digging suspenders and vests most of my life has anything to do with my sexual orientation. I've had both queer and straight friends and communities nearly all of my life: how could I say what comes from who?
Honestly, I'm one of those folks who thinks that for the post part, it's just not very sound to attribute anything to sexual orientation except to whom I am sexually and emotionally attracted and some of the ways I am sexual.
That isn't to say my sexual identity is unimportant: in fact, for me, it's been pretty big in much of my life. Rather, it's to say that I can't very well pull the threads of all of who I am apart very easily to know what's what and which came from where. Know what I mean?
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