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Ok, so I've never considered myself as a bisexual female, but for some reason there's this one girl at my new job that I am very attracted to. I've never been attracted to another female the way I am to her. We've went out a couple of times, the first time by ourselves at the movies. And the second time with two other guys from work. I don't know if she's bi or even bi-curious. Sometimes at work, she distances herself from me and therefore I do the same and it ends up being really awkward. Other times we are laughing and having a really good time. Why do we keep having these awkward moments? Usually the awkward moments happen the next time we see each other after having a really good time (whether at work or not).
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Unfortunately you can't know why she feels awkward, or even if she feels awkward. But your awkwardness could be pretty much directly to do with your attraction to her. Perhaps your embarrassed about having been flirting with her a short time before.
How do you feel about being attracted to her? Many people identify a certain way their whole lives before suddenly discovering a new dimension to their attraction for someone they didn't consider they COULD be attracted to. It can be hard.
Do you also necessarily know that she's avoiding you? Because that's a pretty common thing that people (including me actually) can imagine, but it can't actually be known with out asking the other person. Maybe when you see her outside the social time, she's just busy. Still, maybe not, and she could be having this exact same conversation with someone else.
Do you want to pursue this? How do you think you'd go about it?
You'd need to try find out how she feels, probably by spending more time with her, but also talking to her, make sure she's not a super homophobe or something. And then you'd inevitably just have to take the risk and ask her (if you wanted to).
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I had a similar situation once. I like to think that I don't believe in love at first sight, but one night I met a girl and she completely changed how I felt about that. Before I met her, I always thought of myself as straight. However, after meeting her, I have recognized that there are girls I have been attracted to.. unfortunately, I didn't act on it, and now have no idea where she is; that was over the summer, and I still can't get her out of my mind. I'd say go for it, because you never know what could happen.
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