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I'm a borderline Asberger's (socially inept) lesbian. Most of my friends are straight. Most of them are also in relationships. Each new girlfriend/boyfriend pair has made me slightly depressed, but when I came home to see my heart-of-stone sister snuggling on the couch with one of my best guy friends (who has a heart of steel), I just lost it. I feel ridiculously lonely all the time when my friends go out with their respective significant others instead of going to the movies or hanging out with me. Worse yet, my all-girl Catholic highschool seems to grow beautiful, intelligent young women who are straight as rulers - as do my theater and art classes. I'm getting lonelier and more sexually frustrated every day. Any advice for an antisocial thespian lesbian?

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Are you sure theres no other lesbians/Bisexuals in your school. Maybe some of the girls just arent open about it yet.

Keep looking around and you know they always say when you are not looking for loving thats when it comes to you. So maybe just enjoy life and see what happens.


"Peace is not the absence of war; it is a virtue; a state of mind; a disposition for benevolence; confidence; and justice." -Spinoza

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Are you involved in anything that would help you meet other lesbians/bisexuals? Maybe you could see if there are any GLBTQ groups in your area for teens that you could join? (It sounds like you don't know a lot of other lesbians/bisexuals) Even if you don't meet anyone you like (in a sexual/relationshippy type of way) you could still meet friends who are going through the same stuff as you are!

Anyway, I'm sorry that you are feeling lonely, and good luck with everything!

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(Wo)man, I feel your pain.

I know how hard it is to go to school and see no one but straight girls. Having social disability has to make it all the worse. But honestly, you just need to hang out there. As awesome as being in a relationship can be, it's not such a great idea to find a relationship solely because your soul is crying out for a human teddy bear.

THe other members' suggestions of talking to GLBTQ groups in your area is helpful, but not everyone has that kind of resource. If you're not out to any of your friends, it makes it that much more lonely.

And honestly, if you're really feeling depressed, you need to talk to someone. Talk is good. It gets all those circular thoughts out of your head, where maybe talk can make them change or go away. We're always here ready to talk when you are.

Best of luck,

"Cut her down."
"She is a witch!"
"But she's our witch. Cut her down."

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Yeah, for some reason there are like NO lesbians or female bisexuals in my school, or at least there doesn't seem to be. :|
And I mean guys, there are some who have come out as bi or gay, but girls, its like a desert, or a western film with typical tumbleweed passing.
So, yeah, I think I know how you feel, fustrating as it is. Best of luck all the same.

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