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cordova
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This is my second week of college and already my roomate and i are at odds for a twofold reason, one which im not quite sure how to resolve. First, I need to masterbate everyday, on my bed. however since my roomate and i share one room, the room smells like cunt after i come. Second, I met this girl that i've been having sex with for the past few days. The room smells even more like cunt. Basically, my roomate complains about the smell. which i suppose is legit. only that where else am i to do these activities? the campus doesn't really provide sex rooms. i'm hopefully going over to my girlfriend's room today, so as not to have sex in my room. but its my room too, i should be able to have sex in it. plus, is it normal to have the room smell after sex, how about masterbation? (if you couldn't tell im a virgin to sober sex). i feel awful that i stink, but what can i do?
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cool87
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Just a tought but you might want to try air scents, air purifier (I don't know how it's called ). It might change the smell.

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Heather
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Really, most of the time, the vagina shouldn't emit a strong scent, either with or without any sort of sexual activity.

(And nothing happens physiologically to change the scent of one's vulva or vagina after orgasm.)

You all up-to-date with your annual GYN exams? If not, get in there and do that to be sure you don't actually have a strong smell due to an infection.

If you are all clear on the health front, and you're healthy, you know, your roomie lives with another person, another person who like anyone else, has a scent. That's something to just get used to, just like it's something to get used to for you that you may have to adapt some of your habits, such as understanding that you are sharing a (likely small) space with someone else, and just need to pay mind to that, which may include things like finding ways to make masturbation a bit more private, or engage in it when you can just open a window during or after for a bit before she comes home.

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biblacknproud87
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Really, most of the time, the vagina shouldn't emit a strong scent, either with or without any sort of sexual activity.
Really? I thought it was normal to have a certain scent after sex/masturbation, as the result of the different sexual fluids emitted from the body, etc. And, what is your definition of strong?

To cordova-I would recommend spraying the room as well. That's what I do after I masturbate. I wouldn't say it's a strong smell, but it's a noticeable smell. I guess that's probably what your roommate is complaining about. It's a distinctive smell, because we all have different bodies.

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catalinacisne
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And when it comes to spraying things to cover smells, I would suggest getting an air sanitizer, not a fragrance. If you use a fragrance, your room will no longer smell like vagina, it will smell like vagina and flowers. If you use an air sanitizer (I know lysol makes a good one) it actually eliminates the smell, it doesn't just mask another smell over it.

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feefiefofemme
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"And when it comes to spraying things to cover smells, I would suggest getting an air sanitizer, not a fragrance."

Boy do I ever second that one. While I'm not in college, I do go to a camp once a year where, for 10 days, I share a room with 3-5 other people. As soon as the room starts to smell, people go crazy spraying fragrances. Add that to everyone spraying hair products and bug spray every day, and it's absolutely migrane-inducing. But yeah, air sanitizer is a good way to go, just for day-to-day use. It keeps things nice and fresh.

Anyhow, in regards to bodily odors, people do tend to smell. Not in a bad way, nessacarily, but nonetheless. Have you ever borrowed someone's sweatshirt and just thought 'Wow. This really smells like so-and-so'? I know that, when I go over to other people's houses or hang out in their rooms, I can recognize their scent there. But I don't often notice my own smell, because I'm so used to it. I think, naturally, when you share a small space with someone for any length of time, you're bound to notice a bit of them-essence in the air. Just make sure to take frequent enough showers and wash your clothes/linens, so that that you-essence doesn't become ew-essence.

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biblacknproud87
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lol, you-essence ew-essence...is that copyrighted? lol

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