i'm not shy at all to the people who know me, i just have trouble meeting new people. its really because i'm i very responsive person, i usually don't initiate getting together, but follow the lead of the other person. so, i've been waiting around for years for someone to come along and sweep me off my feet blah blah blah... and i know thats not likely to happen. I'm 18 and i've never been in a serious relationship, i know thats not necessarily bad, but i really feel like i'm ready to start dating more. i'm a lesbian by the way.
there is this girl who works at the cafe next to my job, i always go in there so we've gotten to be friendly. she's really cute and she's into girls too. and i flirt like crazy, but i'm waaay too intimidated to actually ask her to hang out. even as a friend. i guess that the big problem, i don't how to get over that intimidation.
i was wondering if anyone has any suggestions about how to meet people. does internet dating really work? (i know how to do this safely) what about just striking up conversations?
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-sue monk kidd the mermaid chair Posts: 50 | From: western massachusetts | Registered: Jun 2006
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Personally i would see her reactions to your flirting before making a big move. If she seems to enjoy it, or flirts back, then I'd say your chances of getting a date, even if it's just a small get-to-know-you type thing, are VERY good.
I understand how you might be intimidated by the thought of rejection, but take it from someone who (painfully) knows what it's like--don't beat around the bush. Life is too short to worry about what if's and should have's.
Just follow your heart. If it feels right--go for it! Either way it sounds like she at least is interested in a friendship. And every relationship needs to start out that way anyway.
Good Luck! (p.s. internet dating can be ok, but wouldn't you rather have a relationship with somebody who is actually....there?! *wink*)
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