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Ok, I am datin a 13 year old girl, and I am 6 years older than she is, but she dont act her age, when I first saw her I thought she was like 17 or 18, but we love each other, and her moms boyfriend said if I didnt stop talkin to her then he was gonna take me to court, but they just dont understand, we talked today, we sneak around to see each other, shes knows what she wants, and her mom is tryin to help us out, her mom is ok with it. I am a female too. Is there any laws against the fact I am datin someone of that age, and can I still get in trouble since we are both the same sex and her mom approves of it?!?
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Generally speaking, for you to date her is perfectly within the legal realm. But be very aware that the age of consent for heterosexual relations in West Virginia is 16, while same-sex is 18. This means that if you do anything other than hold her hand and kiss her goodnight, you're committing a sex crime. You can be taken to court, and if found guilty, would have to register as a sex offender.

Her mother cannot "consent" to that for her daughter.

Sneaking around to see each other is a bad idea, too. It can instill a sense of irresponsiblity in the eyes of the parent, and generally spells trouble all around.

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Her Mom's approval doesn't change the law.

Can you DATE her? Yes.

Can you be sexually active with her? No. The age of consent in WV is 16, and you being same-sex actually makes the situation more restrictive, not less. From what I can tell, the legal age of consent for same-sex sex in WV is 18. In either case, you have any sort of sex with her, you're a satuatory rapist and a sexual offender.

So, if you're both smart -- and care about each other -- you'll ONLY date, and with every guardian's permission. That keeps you away from charges which could seriously screw up your life long-term, and would likely be used even more often against you as a lesbian.

Really, it's wisest to date someone a lot closer to your own age, for a whole host of reasons. The legalities aside, there are substantial differences between a woman of 19 and one of 13. You were 13 once: think about it.

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