Okay i really need some advice. My friend i told you about a while ago (the gay/bi whatever he can't make up his mind one)let's call him Tony, that i thought kinda liked me (a girl) broke up with his boyfriend about a month and a half ago. They're still friends and i was good friends with his bf (let's call him David) but the past few months he has shown a NOTICEABLE disinterest in me (David). He won't return my calls or anything so basically i just gave up. So i guess we're not friends anymore.
Well i had just recently began liking Tony, and he always kinda acted like he liked me--just a little. Well we were on the phone the other day and i had to ask "Do you miss me?" (We haven't hung out in a while) and he's like "Yeah you're so much fun" and i'm like "Yeah i've tried to get ahold of you and David but you've been busy" and he's like "Yeah i noticed but yeah i miss you, you're so awesome"
Let me back up to say that Tony doesn't have a car, so whenever we'd get together it would be myself, David, and Tony (back when they were dating and David and I were good friends--that's how i met Tony in the first place) with David driving. So in shortened terms when we hung out it was always 3 of us, and Tony and I were NEVER alone. And personally if i ever sat next to Tony, or joked around or ANYTHING, David would get all mad and be like "Don't look at Tony!" or, "Don't touch him like that!" you know just little stuff.
Well anyways i have a couple of questions to ask:
1) How would i come across asking Tony to hang out (it would be the first time we have been alone) without looking weird? Because usually when we used to hang out it would be David, myself, and Tony, but David and him are splitsville, and David and I aren't even friends anymore. Would he take it in a weird way? What do you suggest i do, or say? Or should i say nothing at all? He is not the type to come to me.
2) If i do come around to asking him to hang out (nothing special, maybe a walk, or going somewhere where we could talk) should I tell him how i feel? Or wait? And how long should I wait? i really like him
3) if i tell him how i feel, he might think i'm dumb for trying, especially if he is bi? He is sometimes attracted to girls, but he is moreso attracted to males. Is it worth the risk of being humiliated or looking dumb?
I really like him and would like a relationship with him but I just don't know what to do! Help please!!!
I'm sorry how long this is but i'd appreciate as much input as possible.
[This message has been edited by crazybabe313 (edited 01-26-2006).]