i have a friend, more like one of my bestfriends, and we've been friends for years now. she is not like me(gay or bisexual)but i've always had a small crush on her. i never told her but i sometimes think about her sexually. i know its not healthy for our friendship, so am i doing the right thing by keeping quiet? i fear that if i tell her that i have these feelings that she will not be comfortable around me anymore?
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Posts: 7 | From: Powder Springs, GA, USA | Registered: Jan 2006
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honestly in my opinion if you know FOR A FACT that she is not bi or lesbian then i would keep my mouth shut. Telling her might push her away a bit. Think of it in her point of view. If your lesbian friend told you she was having sexual fantasies about you, what would you think? Kinda creepy....but then again, if she is the open-minded, calm type then maybe you should. But think about this: What is the purpose? If you know she would not have feelings for you then what is the point. Yeah it's driving you crazy not to tell her, but telling her when you won't get a yeah-i-like-you-too response would be pointless and you will still be in the same, daydreaming position you were before. It's your life, but think about it from your friends point of view. Good luck! Posts: 26 | Registered: Dec 2005
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