I've been in a relationship with this wonderful girl for seven months now. When we got together she had a 5 month old daughter. Well for the first few months I kinda stayed away from the baby so that I wouldn't get attached to the baby and not her mother. Its seven months later and now she's a year old. Now I know that she and I are a very sure thing for now and I spend alot of time with the baby. Kenny(the baby's daddy) barely has anything to do with her at all. They have joint custody and he gets the baby one week and Mary gets her the other. But he sometimes will leave in the middle of the night and just leave the baby with his parents...but thats a totally different story. Mary lives with her parents for money reasons and Mary and her family has been calling me the "step mommy" to the baby. It kinda bothers me. I do take alot of responibility for the child and I provide for her when I don't have to. Honestly, for her bday, her father and I were in the same room and she came to me with all her toys and cried when he picked her up. So what do I do? Is it going to confuse her if they keep insisting that I'm her "step-mother"? I really dont want to cause her any more problems in life than she'll already have (especially with her daddy and his idiot family) Am I over-reacting or what?
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Posts: 3 | From: Chatsworth, GA, USA | Registered: Oct 2005
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What I'd suggest is that you simply tell her parents you'd prefer if they called you by your name to the child, not "stepmommy."
And that's wise, for everyone's sake, including yours: you don't have any sort of legal custody or parental rights, after all, so until such time as you want them and do, affixing a moniker that implies you've got them isn't so smart.
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