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I am very confused and need advice i think that my boyfriend of a year is bisexual and he wont tell me I have seen some of the gay web sites that he has gone to on his computer and I would like adveice on how to either determine if he is bi or how to talk to him about his sexuality.
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When you say he won't tell you, do you mean he just hasn't iniated discussion about EITHER of your orientation, or that he won't answer when you ask?

In other words, if neither of you has initiated the discussion, it can be as simple to start as saying, "Hey -- let's talk about our sexual orientation. I think at this point I'm X, how do you feel about yours?"

The only way to determine what a given persons orientation is is to ask them.

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If you haven't already, I suggest asking him about it. He could be confused about his orientation and/or debating whether or not to tell you he's gay or bisexual. If you're careful not to sound as if you're accusing him of something, your asking could make things much easier for him.
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Just talk to him. Ask him..."I have noticed you seem different there anything you want to tal about?" assure him that whatever it is he has your support. if he says nothing is wrong, them ask him straight up," are you bi or homo sexual?" tell him again, he has your support and you want him to be happy. Sometimes knowing they have your support and they can talk to you is enough. And maybe if not right away, he will talk to you later. any more questions just post them, I reply to posts everyday.
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