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My girlfriend and i have been dating for almost 3 months. her parents found out after about a month that their daughter was involved in what they consider, and i quote "a disgusting lesbian relationship" and needless to say they flipped. we've been hiding it pretty well up until a little under two weeks ago, when apparently all hell broke loose again. i haven't seen her in almost two weeks nor have i spoken with her(they took her cell phone, do not allow any phone calls, and have disconnected the internet in her room) and i'm not sure what to do anymore. i really want to stay with her, and i'm willing to make it work even if we don't see each other that often, but she has expressed some concern about not seeing me enough in the past. i am lost at this point and am just looking for any advice, encouragement... anything.



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I read this earlier and I've thought of it off and on all afternoon.

You don't say how old the two of you are. That may make a difference in a situation like this, as to whether one or both of you are going to be out of the parental house any time soon.

As the situation stands, though, it sounds like the best option for all involved may be to respect the wishes of her parents--not because they're right, but because it sounds like your girlfriend's life is being made pretty miserable.

If she has been having issues with not being able to see you enough in the past, and now you can't see or talk to her at all, it sounds like this relationship will not be able to work for her. It doesn't sound like a particularly pleasant spot for you, either.

I don't think hiding it is the answer; that may just bring about more extreme reaction from her parents when they find out (and they will--parents, somehow, always know). It sounds to me like this may spell the end of your relationship, and while that's sad, it may be the best thing for all involved until she is able to free herself from the restrictions of her parents.

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we're both 16...

i just don't know if i'm willing to do that right now. i know its stupid, but i'm being selfish. We've both been home from school sick the last two days so i've gotten to talk to her sporadically online. we talked a bit about not being able to see each other, and agreed that we were both okay with it for now, and we'd just have to see where things went...

thanks for the advice though... it is probably the smartest thing, i guess im just not willing to be smart about this...



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