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cammy87
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I'm 17 and need a little advice. I'm an out bisexual and have a friend (straight...to my knowledge) and she keeps coming on to me. She has a BF, so it really confuses me when she makes passes at me... I have to admitt I'm attracted to her but I just don't seem to know what to do...please help
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jethreau'shumblewife
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Keep your cool..I had a friend who was doing this to me and I still don't fully understand what she was trying to do.
Make no assumptions and while I don't think you should have to act completely distant or disdainful towards her, it probably would not be wise to do anything rash.
What exactly is she doing that you consider "coming on" to you?

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cammy87
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Well she will like give me a back rub at work...which she has never ever doneand we get in these deep conversations on me being Bi and she asks what its like kissing a girl and stuff which before she has never should any interest in the subject. And I think mose of all she gives me this look and its not a look I have gotten from her.....maybe I'm just naive and she is just joking but it always makes me question.
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Heather
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It's not abnormal for stright or questioning people to exhibit this kind of behaviour around queer people they know they can do so safely with.

But that doesn't men you don't get to make limits and boundaries, because you should. That's part of everyone's sexuality.

So, in a scenario like this, I'd suggest being forthright and letting her know that some of her behaviour is confusing you or making you uncomfortable. That you're okay to answer questions (if you are okay with it), but that you can also refer her to other sources as well.


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