I have this situation im going through. I am bisexual, and i have this boyfriend of 5 months, we were always close and now things have been sorta drifting away. at the beginning of this week, this girl i happened to have a crush on since last year decided to befriend me because we both take field hockey, and we both hit it off great for this week. On thursday night i tried takin pics with her but my camera was being dumb. In school, she is always looking at me smiling and saying hey to me and it makes me melt. So anyway, thursday night, i got a ride home from my friend, ashley. I told ashley me and mere have been getting really close lately and its making me very happy because I wanted to befriend her. We also got onto the subject that I am struggling in school, but i really want to get really good in both sports and school. She told me Mere was very very smart and she could ask her if she wanted to tutor me. Mere owes me an individual picture ( i asked her for one and she said yes! ) and she also is going to be my tutor i think. Should this whole tutoring thing happens and we get really close, should I approach her? I really think she is gettin a crush on me cuz of the numerous amounts of blushing. Also, how should I approach her about if she does want to tutor me. and how should i approach her about the pic she still hasnt given me? Thanks
[This message has been edited by FieldHockey4life (edited 11-02-2003).]
Sorry to break this to you, but someone you have a mad crush on is not an ideal tutor if you're really serious about uppping your grades. It's pretty much impossible to study well when the sight of someone turns your knees to jello.
So, in terms of tutoring, I'd suggest finding someone you both don't have a crush on, and wit whom your only motive is working on your schoolwork.
In terms of this girl, before you pursue any new relationships, it'd be both wise and fair to all parties for you to end the one you're in first, if you are, in fact, finished with it.
I'd have to agree with Miz Scarlet on this one. I know how it feels to have a crush on someone, and trust me, it's not the person you wanna be with if you want to raise your grades.
And yeah, you might want to be fair with everyone, specially with the guy you've been with for 5 months. If it's over, tell him. Otherwise, don't get involved with the girl you have a crush on, since it wouldn't be fair for the guy, and it might get you into trouble.
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I totally understand your situation but another thing you need to take into account is wether this Mere is Gay / Bi... coz the way I see ti your laying all of your cards on the table on the off chance that she "MIGHT" like you back. Also is it worth being with a guy if you generally don't have any interest in him. Regardless of Mere, if your not sure about being with this guy then the best thing to do would be to get your head sorted out as to wether your going to stay with him or not and as for Mere find out wether shes Gay/ Bi because if you end it with your guy for her then shes not interested in that sense it'll be all the unessacary heartbreak....for your boyfriend knowing that you ended it because you preferred someone else .....and you because Mere may not be Gay / Bi!
Kayli is right. Mere may not be gay/bi. You def dont want her to tutor you because your mind will be somewhere other than on your work. That would most likely make it harder for you to get better at that subject. But I believe that youll know eventually what to do.
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