I have a similar situation to many other girls on the board. I have a best friend who I love and respect more than anything. But when I confessed to her that I was bi, she admitted that she was also. Now our once-joking sexual banter is seeped in innuendo. She has made it clear that she wants to make our relationship physical.
Were it only this, I don't think I would have a problem going ahead with it. We are good enough friends that I think we could get through anything. Plus, I have never been more attracted to anyone in my life. But there's more. She has a boyfriend who she says she loves more than anything. I also am starting to have feelings for a guy I know. Maybe she doesn't consider physical activity between us to be cheating, but I'm not sure where you draw the line. Does anyone else have a similar situation, or thoughts? Any advice would be appreciated.
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Well, if she has a commitment to someone else, then your friend needs to talk to her boyfriend if she's going to get involved with you. *She* may not consider it cheating, but he very well might.
I think you've got the right attitude about all this; it seems like you've both been honest with each other and yourselves. Your friend now needs to decide if she can get involved physically with you, if she wants to. You need to decide if you're going to pursue this guy that you have feelings for, or if you're going to wait for her.
Bottom line here, I think, is that your girlfriend is taken at the moment. She has strong feelings for someone else. It may be best to just keep this to a friendship for now; it's no good trying to break them up or waiting around for something to happen if they do separate.
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