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chipmunk
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ok, so there's this girl in my class that I joke flirt with all the time. I walk into class like "hey pretty lady how's it goin?" and she says somethin like "pretty good, gorgeous, how you doin?" it's like that everyday. she even comes up and hugs me sometimes (she's so cute) anyway, i'm pretty sure she's interested in girls and me atleast a little, and i'm deffinently interested in her. i just need to let her know i'm serious, and of course, i don't have a clue how. we're already friends but i only hang out with her in the classes i have with her. i want to ask her to go do something but not to seem like it's a date. it's so confusing!!

chippy

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Dude_who_writes
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Communication and honest are going to be the keys, sweetie. If you want your relationship with this girl to go any further than it already has, then you're going to have put yourself out on the line, so to speak. It comes down to whether or not you want to put yourself on the line. Think about it carefully, and then, if you do decide to go ahead with it, be open, and honest.

Good luck.

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lemming
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Gah. It seems like it's harder with girls and this type of thing, because it's more common for us to joke around with our friends, tell them how cute they look, call each other silly names - it makes it even more confusing when you've got a crush, doesn't it? It does with me, anyway -

I'd say, try to get to know this girl a little better. Find something for the two of you to do that both of you would like, go see a movie together, have coffee, just something friendly that any two friends would do together. You want to be friends with her anyway, right? I'd be a good idea to work on that before worrying about the romantic stuff. Then, she may either volunteer whether she's interested in you, too, or you can feel comfortable enough to tell her how you feel about her.

(I feel like I'm so bad at giving relationship advice. I hope that helped a little, at least - that's how I'd do it, anyway.)

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quote:
Originally posted by lemming:
Gah. It seems like it's harder with girls and this type of thing, because it's more common for us to joke around with our friends, tell them how cute they look, call each other silly names - it makes it even more confusing when you've got a crush, doesn't it? It does with me, anyway -

I'd say, try to get to know this girl a little better. Find something for the two of you to do that both of you would like, go see a movie together, have coffee, just something friendly that any two friends would do together. You want to be friends with her anyway, right? I'd be a good idea to work on that before worrying about the romantic stuff. Then, she may either volunteer whether she's interested in you, too, or you can feel comfortable enough to tell her how you feel about her.

(I feel like I'm so bad at giving relationship advice. I hope that helped a little, at least - that's how I'd do it, anyway.)



You said it perfectly!

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chipmunk
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thanks, i should have known all that stuff, but i guess, when you like someone it messes with your head. yeah i joke flirt with a lot of my friends, but that's what they are, friends. on the bright side, after hangin with her a little more i found out she goes out drinkin and stuff sometimes (which i'm really against) she's not really my type i guess. oh and on the even brighter side, i got a very interesting note from a female friend of mine in my year book. yeah

thanks for the help you guys it means a lot

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