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See i have a problem. I've been wondering about my sexuality for about a year now.
and one day it all went wrong,,this is what happened.

one day at school my best friend said that she was a lesbeian. then i talked to her about me. so i said that i was bi. but for real,, i had no clue. so me and her started to go out. every one thought we were freaks and we didnt really care. know i love her. i would do any thing for her. but a couple days ago some one made fun of me. now im qustioning how i feel. and i dont want to hurt her.i love her. should i call it off?
or should i ceep it?
please help me


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Many people take a good long time to sort out their sexual identity. Some go for years thinging they're hetero, then start to realize they may have bisexual inclinations. Or some bisexual people can eventually start to realize that they're actually only homosexual. It runs the whole gamut.

If you think you are bi, then so be it. If you love your girlfriend, then that's fine. But remember, it's not always easy being in a relationship. Many gay people in relationships find themselves the target of hate and discrimination. Many people in interracial relationships find themselves the target of racist persecution. The point is, lots of people are persecuted because there are ignorant and intolerant folks in the world. The question is, are you ready to deal with that? If you are not emotionally strong enough to deal with the haters, then you aren't going to be ready to have the sort of relationship you are in right now. You can talk about this to your friend and decide wether or not it is right for you to continue this relationship.

May suffering and pestilence befall the %$@! who broke into my car.

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hey i think that you are lucky that you have found a girl you love. i know how it feels to question your sexually feelings. no one likes to be made fun of but if your love her i am sure it is worth a little teasing or alot. i think you know how you feel really but it sucks people around you have to be dumb. best of luck to you!!

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I know exactly how you feel. My best friend in the entire world came out to me as a lesbian (I was the first person that she told) and she informed me that she had a crush on me. I believe that I love people, and could emotionally/physically/mentally fall in love with someone, regardless of their sexuality or orientation. Needless to say, 6 months after she came out, we started going out. She is the love of my life. Kittie, if you think that you love this girl, then stick with it. Anything that you have to deal with together may actually strengthen your relationship.

Side note: Kissing Jessica Stein is a wonderful movie and you should see it if you can. It actually helped me come to the conclusion that I did want to start dating my girlfriend.

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