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Quinn
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A group of people that I've known for about a year now are always saying, "That's so gay" or "This is gay" whenever they get frustrated with ANYTHING. No one says anything to them about it, and it only started bothering me recently, because I haven't had classes around most of them for a while. What do I say/do? Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
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I typically say, "Yeah, (that object/whatever) really is attracted to a/an (object) of the same gender." Sometimes I follow that statement with a muttered, "...genius...".
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http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum15/HTML/000064.html

Previous thread on the subject.


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cheshire_kitty
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My school is notorious for using that phrase. It seems like it's a requirement to get in there!

I have a habit, that whenever one of my friends says something is gay, I reply with 'Yes, I'm sure it's homosexual' or 'Yes, tis rather happy'. Works most of the time ^_^


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OMG. I get sooo annoyed about this. People I know say 'thats so gay' to mean 'thats so stupid'
Everytime someone says it I try to remind them that gay has never meant stupid, but I think most of my friends have kinda got the message now and don't say it around me. It just annoys me because people seem to either use it as an insult to gay people, or they just don't think and say it when everyone else does, to mean something stupid.

I like the idea of saying 'Yeah, that really is happy' etc. though. I may try it next time!


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Quinn
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I don't even understand exactly how that saying would come about. Even if someone hates gay people, I doubt they would make it a point to include that into their speech as much as possible.
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I always say "Yes, of course (insert name of object) have sexual orientations!"
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Slayergurlie149
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Yeah I have lots of people at my school say that and it offends me now because I am bisexual and know one of my friends is completely gay. That does not make them bad. I wish people would cut this out but because of the society we live in that degrades homosexual activites I doubt that this will change soon.

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I say it all the time. My gay friends do too, so i figure, hey if they can so can I.
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Jay226
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quote:
Originally posted by mrsweed:
I say it all the time. My gay friends do too, so i figure, hey if they can so can I.


I guess what your gay friends ment was a particular thing that looks stereotipically homosexual, as in saying "That shirt is so gay" to a guy in pink shirt.


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quote:
Originally posted by mrsweed:
I say it all the time. My gay friends do too, so i figure, hey if they can so can I.


I guess what your gay friends ment was a particular thing that looks stereotipically homosexual, as in saying "That shirt is so gay" to a guy in pink shirt.


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quote:
Originally posted by Jay226:

I guess what your gay friends ment was a particular thing that looks stereotipically homosexual, as in saying "That shirt is so gay" to a guy in pink shirt.

I can't really tell if you are serious or not (darn emotionless internet... ^_^; ) but not neccessarily. There is no rule that says only hetero people use the word gay in a slang or derogatory way.

[This message has been edited by pisces (edited 04-08-2003).]


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well, i'm bi and i always say "jeez that is SO gay" and last year me and my friends made up the word "homorific" and i still use that one occassionally. it's just a slang term like everything else. Remember, gay didn't start off as homosexual either, it just came to mean that. words evolve. no need to get upset.

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In my school's Gay/Straight Alliance we have been trying to reduce the use of the word "gay" as derrogatory term. The best thing to do (if you're comfortable enough to speak out) is to simply say something along the lines of...

"It really bothers me when you say that... because I think its degrading towards gay people."
"When you use the word gay in that manner it really offends me... because I have friends who are gay and I care about and support them"
"I'd appreciate it if you didn't say that around me... because I am gay and that offends me."

...Or basically any variaton/rearragement on the above themes. Its just important that you politely introduce the problem and then state why it bothers you. Any friend who cares about your feelings will stop saying something that offends you if you ask nicely.
Sometimes it takes courage to speak out but once you do it a few times it gets a lot easier.


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quote:
"When you use the word gay in that manner it really offends me... because I have friends who are gay and I care about and support them"
"I'd appreciate it if you didn't say that around me... because I am gay and that offends me."

While those statements may be effective, I'd like to note that it's not necessary to have a personal affiliation with someone to consider it worth defending.

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quote:
Originally posted by Milke:
While those statements may be effective, I'd like to note that it's not necessary to have a personal affiliation with someone to consider it worth defending.


Its obviously not necessary, the point is simply to help the person understand a reason why you might not like it. Some people find it easier to relate to your discomfort when you tell them a more personal reason that it bothers you besides "i just don't like it." which is certainly fine, but sometimes harder for certain people to understand and pay attention to. anyhow, they're just suggestions... variations on a theme (tell them it bothers you, then tell them why, the reason doesn't matter)


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