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Hey all...ok well here goes: I just started at a new school. It's all girls and religious (Christian). Naturally, any of your who have had the experience know that rumours fly around that kind of environment at light speed. Well, this rumour is about a girl who I really really like. I mean really. People who are pretty trustworthy by me (I knew a lot of people from the new school before I transferred) have told me that "Erica" is a lesbian. This, of course, would excite me, but I am not out to anyone at this school. I guess what I'm asking for is advice on how to...make a move? (if at all) I don't know, any kind of advice would help. thanks ~alex
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Bear in mind that even if the person you like is lesbian she:

a) may or may not be available, and
b) may or may not have interest in you, personally.

If you're worried about being out at school, it's worth realizing that if you;re dating another student, you're going to be outed awfully fast. Just bear it in mind if it's a concern.

Otherwise? You approach her like you'd approach anyone you're interested in getting to know. Introduce yourself, start a conversation, see if she'd like to go grab a cup of tea or see a movie sometime.

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I agree with Miz Scarlet. Just get to know her. Start a conversation. Don't go in expecting a relationship. Aim for friendship. See what she is into. Spend time with her. most of all don't rush things.

the girl dreams are made of =)

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Yeah, I understand what you mean. I go to an all girls' school too, so when I was on the bus once, or well lots of times guys and girls from the public school ask me if it is true that lots of the girls at our school are lesbians or bisexuals. Well, I tell them that I AM, but at the same time I tell them that I do not know about the other girls at my school. But move slowly become this girl's friend. Talk to her. See what she really is like and then move on from there.

Keep up what you think is right even if you are looked at. Heck you live a little feel much.

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omigodjumpherbones!! no for real, if you don't care what peopel think about you, just get real close to her until you find out the truth, and if she really is, then put it on her.


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heya, sorry! I posted in the wrong spot and now am unable to delete it. :P

[This message has been edited by Issy (edited 05-05-2003).]

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