How about including her at first?
Is there a PFLAG meeting near you? Maybe the next town over so SHE can feel a little more secure?
Really, there is a reason suicide rates among GLBT youth are escalated, and some of that has to do with what you're describinng. I'm not suggesting you say that exactly, but impressing upon her the importance of you getting some community seems key here.
You might want to suggest this scenario to her: if she can imagine when she grew up, having no STRAIGHT friends, no groups of heterosexual people to talk about feelings with, no support in her school for being heterosexual. It would be pretty intense. On the inverse it can feel pretty darned terrible. No one likes to feel like someone's dirty secret.
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