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NormalDancinGuy
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Ok well i guess im writing this because im thinking that a few of my friends might bi or gay, (by the way im bi{male) we flirt alot but its kind of a joke but sometimes it gets alittle more than a joke and it turns me on because im attracted to my friend but i dont want to loose his friendship by telling him im bi but if it could be anything more than a friendship then i would want it to be- what do you think i should do?

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mistress_monkey
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this article may help out.

http://www.scarleteen.com/gaydar/out.html

i'd just tell him about your orientation first, see how he takes it. then, if things go well, ask him about being more than friends.

good luck.

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NormalDancinGuy
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ok - thanks alot - ill have to do that , but im thinkin that it is harder than i thought but ill still do it- thanyou very much

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mistress_monkey
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no problem! always willing. good luck!

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mnsouthpawjr
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I agree with the response but I want to add . . .

Be careful and take it slow. He could be devastated or he could be homophobic. It's hard to know who accepts you and who won't.

I just know how hard it is tell someone your sexuality and then tell them you are interested in them.


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mnsouthpawjr
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I wanted to add (since I accidentally sent 2 of the same posts) -- feel free use the resources avaialable to the GLBT community. That's a network that could help you with this matter and others.

[This message has been edited by mnsouthpawjr (edited 08-07-2002).]


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ellabee
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I totally support you. The relationship that can grow between friends is amazing. I have been in almost the same position before, so i just want to let you know something i didnt. If all goes well when you tell your friend about your feelings then immediately sit down and talk to him about whats going to happen. and i mean discuss it. Talk about whats going to change, the possibility of a breakup and the pros and cons of getting involved. I being so excited by bestfriend felt the same way ignored my instinct to do so initially and again when an older friend told us to do the same. It's scary to talk about it but it sucks even worse having the greatest week of your life and a shattered friendship.
i didnt want to sound discouraging just think it through...with your friend before you make the leap

good luck


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