This is something I've noticed a bit in my own life lately, so I thought I'd start a topic in here for some discussion.
To lay down a bit of the backstory, I'm married to a MtF transsexual who born male, but transitioned to female about a year after we got married. So, in essence, I'm married to someone who has been both male and female at different points in our relationship. Confused yet? Me too.
While her transition hasn't made so much as a ripple in our relationship, I've noticed a few small changes in the dynamics of how I act now.
Most noticible is how I act when we're in public -- living in a small backwater town in the deep South, being openly queer isn't a good idea, so I usually don't hold her hand, or kiss her, or otherwise blatently act like we're a couple when we're in public. That makes me furious, but that's another story all together.
I've also noticed, though, that I'm much more affectionate verbally now with her. I never used to be comfortable with pet names or things like "sweetie", but since she's transitioned, I've noticed more terms of endearment creeping into my vocabulary, along with some cloyingly sweet pet names.
Has anyone else noticed similar differences in the dynamics of a relationship depending on the gender of the other person? Any other thoughts?
"The only unnatural sexual act is that which you cannot perform."
-- Alfred Kinsey