Hello all! So, I'm sure this is everybody's question and the truth is, and I know this, there's no real answer, but I'm hoping that you guys will(again) be able to offer a few words of advice and comments. So, how can I tell the difference between real, honest love and that wonderful but tideous euphoria? It's not like it'll make a difference but I'm one of those people who NEEDS to analyze everything, I just can't help it. I don't like being out of control you could say. (I'm also a Virgo too, I am in a relationship, as others may have read about me in other posts. I've been with my current girlfriend for close to a year now. That seems very brief, even to me, but I've never been this close, or felt this safe with anybody. I trust her with everything and I recognize that we're not perfect and we do fight every now and then (whereas when we first began, I denied every little problem to avoid losing her)But we both honestly believe that we truly click and that we could make each other happy. We've considered the ups and downs and we're looking at it logically too. Everybody's probably said that too, but if anybody's got any little tidbits on the differences, if it's possible to name any, please do. And what are some signs that this euphoria is dying off? Once again I'm sorry if it's vague, I tend to do that, but your comments would be great! Thank-you!
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Hmm, well if you ask me, you ARE analysing too much!
Read your post back to yourself - you've considered your relationship with your girlfriend and come to the conclusion that, guess what? You're happy! Doesn't sound like euphoria to me, just a healthy relationship.
If you ask me, a year's a long enough time to dismiss everything as not "real" and merely euphoria. And anyway, isn't love about euphoria a lot of the time? The times when you look at that person and think you're the luckiest person in the world?
I think you're being a little pessimistic (and this is coming from a pessimist!) when you say you want to be able to look for the signs that your love is dying off. Live for the present. Maybe, as you say, you like control and you don't like reliquishing that control to your girlfriend. Love IS scary when you think to yourself, "That person has power over me, to make me happy / unhappy." It certainly worries a control freak like me sometimes. But you learn to let it go and enjoy what you have...
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