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I just came out to my mom and dad.
They reacted exactly as I anticipated. My dad immediately accepted it, told me he loved me, and started cracking coming-out jokes.
My mother got very quiet, then began to tell me abstract things about safe sex and why it's good to wait; things I appreciate, but that's not why I told her (I have Scarleteen for that!).
I have an idea of what she's going through because I've read Straight Parents, Gay Kids, but I am still wondering what to do.
I told her that she could read my copy of the above book. She refused as expected...
I know I should be patient. I had many years to ponder the reality of my sexuality, and it will take her even longer.
I don't regret coming out at all. I feel so light and free, for the most part.
I hope I haven't destroyed our relationship...I've read about mothers and daughters whose relationships have actually improved as a result of coming out, but mine seems to be going in the opposite direction.
I have an older sister who knows and is very accepting, should I ask her to initiate a conversation? I really want to be the one with whom my mom talks.
Thanks for reading :-)

[This message has been edited by shh (edited 04-18-2002).]

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Asking ur sister 2 talk 2 your mom is a good idea, especially if your mom seems to particularly trust her.
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