i'm looking for some advice...
i am getting the impression that one of my college suitemates may be lesbian or bisexual.
for one thing, she receives letters from other girls that sound like every love letter you've ever read. her roommate frequently comes home and finds her in the room with another girl, with the lights off, and they both leap out of bed and start fixing their hair when they hear the key in the door. she tells us that she has a boyfriend named chris, but no one has ever met him or spoken to him, and the only chris that calls her is a girl named christ.
i realize that none of these things in and of themselves constitute conclusive evidence. even all of them together might be explained away. but there are just little day to day signs that strongly suggest that she might be in the closet. i think she wants to be open about it (because she does things like leaving her love notes lying open around her dorm room), but i think maybe she is afraid of how the rest of us will react.
i have talked to my roommate and my other suitemate, and they both sense the same thing. none of us would mind if that were the case - in fact, we would prefer it if she felt comfortable enough to be open with us.
however, we are unsure of how to approach the subject with her. i don't want to risk her being offended if we're wrong; i also don't want her to get scared or defensive if we're right.
what can i say to make her feel safe and comfortable while letting her realize that she can be honest with us?
please help! as the situation stands now, there is a lot of tension between the four of us. i really want to get everything out in the open and let everyone know that they can be themselves without being judged. any advice is appreciated; thanks.
Ignore the Gable candle!