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Gaby
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Me and my best friend have known eachother for almost 9 months and we've gotten really close. She doesn't know that I'm bi and recently I've felt like I needed her to know cuzi felt like i was being dishonest with her. But what made it way more difficult for me to tell her was that i am interested in her romantically. Sometimes it seems that she responds to my flirting, I mean c'mon! What friends give eachother compliments every single time they talk?!?
Well, I was gonna tell her about it yesterday and I started off my asking 'have you ever had romantic feelings towards someone that you really really really didn't wanna see that way?' and her response was yes. And then I asked her 'well what should we do about it' and I don't know if that question freaked her out or what, but she got bumped from online 'accidently'. i don't know if that was a scape goat to getting outta the conversation or what, but after a min. she signed back on and i totally avoided the subject.
I really don't know what to think oor do. Please help! And sorry it's so long =)


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Heather
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Never apologize for saying all you need to here.

I think the best thing right now, since it's awfully hard to guess what's going on in her head, is to give her some space for a couple days. After that, ring her up and go over, and say what you said here: that you're worried you scared her, and didn't want to do that, and that you're very confused about your feelings towards her and want to talk about them.


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Gaby
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Ok, well it's me again, and I just finished telling my best friend about me. I didn't get the courage to say the exact words, but i think she kinda gets the picture. So far she seems ok with it, so i'll have to wait tomorrow for a complete response.
Thanx for the advice

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Heather
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Good for you, girl!

I am SO glad to hear it went okay.


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I'm bi, and I went through stuff like that too! Some girls will get totally turned off and homophobic, others will be really cool about it, and some will even respond to your offer! Just give yourself credit for having the courage to be honest about your sexuality. And if she doesn't respond, don't give up! Soon you'll find someone you like who will! Just keep trying. Remember... "Winners never quit, quitters never win".
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