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flamingcharisma95
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I've read all your awesome articles and I'd like to thank you all, specially Heather for giving us such specific answers to our questions. They do help a lot, I've learned a lot from this website and to be honest is a blessing!

I have some doubts tho, I've read the following articles: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?; You are NOT pregnant, why do you think you are? and Pregnancy scared?

I made a question and I was told to read This Is Your Pregnancy Scare Answer but some articles kind of...contradict what the other articles say, for example in two of these articles I read that dry humping does not possess any pregnancy risk because two or only one partner is wearing clothing but in Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That? I read that there might be a low risk if a partner is wearing a very thin garment that allows for some direct genital contact, like a thong, or there is accidental fluid contact....so my question is what is the real answer? because in other article says that dry humping does not possess any pregnancy risk because dry humping is rubbing your genitals together where one or more people involved have some kind of clothing on...it says ONE or MORE meaning that if I'm naked and my partner is not naked, there's no pregnancy risk then why in this other article says there might be a low risk if he's wearing a very thin garment that allows for some direct genital contact....I thought sperm couldn't swim through clothing...so yeah I'm very confused, which is the real answer?

Also, I made a similar question before and when I wanted to reply to that I couldn't because it said that the post was closed. :/

so yeah does it matter if I was naked but my boyfriend wasn't? can I get pregnant that way? I guess not because he wasn't wearing a very thin garment like a thong he was wearing jeans and underwear

P.S: I'm sorry for being a pain in the *** to you guys but I have nobody to talk to [Frown]

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Heather
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Can you see, in your second to last sentence here, that you make clear you're asking us about something that wasn't even relevant to you?

In other words, you are making clear that in this situation, your boyfriend was wearing jeans and underwear, not a very thin garment.

But here's the thing: if and when folks' clothes do start all coming off? That really is the time for a condom to go on. Both for your peace of mind, clearly, but also because if and when one person's pants are coming off and sexual activity is going on? Chances are mighty good you're at least doing something that poses risks of infections, so it's time for safer sex.

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flamingcharisma95
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Yeah, you're right I made my statement clear, I guess I was blinded by fear because I get a little paranoid ''oh but he had tight jeans on'' ''what if the jeans were very thin'' etc...you know, I'm sorry. [Frown] it doesn't matter, right? jeans aren't a thin garment of clothing like a thong right?

yeah I know but...he did that without permission because I said I was fine with oral sex but just oral sex and I think he got a little heated up and he put himself on top of me and started grinding and I was like WHAT NOOO GET OFF OF ME NOO and I stopped him, he apologized but that's the exact same reason why I don't like these things, he's impulsive.

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Heather
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So, why are you staying with this person in this context if they are doing sexual things without asking you first?

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I don't know...he's a good guy, don't get me wrong. He's been my best friend all my life, since we were little kids and we started going steady last year. What do you think I should do? He says I worry for things that neever happens because we do things that can't possibly cause pregnancy (My friends say the same thing too) and I don't know, any advice? I love him too much
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Heather
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None of this has anything to do with the fact that you seem to be saying he is not asking you for consent to things he is doing.

Because even with things where pregnancy is not a risk, someone should be asking someone else for consent before just doing sexual things to them. Period.

Why don't you read through this, and perhaps pass it on to him? Driver's Ed for the Sexual Superhighway: Navigating Consent

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You're right, thank you Heather [Smile]
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