I just found you. i have been looking for a place to let my 12 yo daughter find information. fromwhat i read there is lots of good info here, we will have to sit down and wonder together. do you have any other ideas where i can get information for her. more about healthy relationships than sex at the moment. her father and i sat down last week and talked about how to teach her this without any examples( we split before she was born) between the 2 of us we have plenty of what not to do's but that really woun't work. we have started talking to her about dating, sex, drugs ect. becouse we never were by our parents. my talk with my mother about sex was when i came home from school one day at 17 she said "your pregnant aren't you? guess we should have that talk now" i responded with "no mom it's a little late for that" and left the room. I have realized how these things stick with us and am trying to give her something better. but like i said earlyer i have no good examples for her, and i don't want her to groww up beleving that she has to be alone to be happy. so any imput would be apprecated Thank you!
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Ariel Gore is a magnificent woman and a FANTASTIC parenting author. She was a co-founder of Hip Mama magazine (hipmama.com), which is an excellent site. She has a new book out called, Whatever, Mom about parenting teens. Another really great one about mother-daughter talkes about sexuality is Nathalie Bartle's Venus in Blue Jeans[.
My book isn't out just yet, but even if it was, 12 is a younger age than I geared it to, so instead, I'd suggest the great teen book from the Boston Women's Health Collective [i]Changing Bodies, Changing Lives. It has sexuality information and body information, but also a great deal per relationships, so it's a good allover reference your daughter could easily find the bits she needs right now in, but have more information on other things for later. Teen Voices and New Moon magazines are also young adult written mags great for younger teens -- not only are relationships a common topic in both, the fact that they're teen written makes for an awesome peer-to-peer experience.
Gotta say, though, that you shouldn't cut yourself short: even though you and her father don't have a romantic relationship anymore, sounds like you're co-parenting really well, and that IS a relationship, too, and her being able to see two parents who aren't "together" but still can act as a unit and be her family? That's awesome modeling, so even just per your relationship, I don't see that she's without examples.
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