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Ok, I'm not interested in sex, but I do want to sleep with my boyfriend. My parents don't want me to sleep with him because they think it will lead to sex faster even though I told them that not only do I not want sex, but I understand that I'm not ready to deal with the possible consequences. But the thing is, they will let me stay at his apartment, or him stay over here, as long as we don't end up sleeping in the same bed and I don't end up sleeping at his apartment. So, let me get this straight, they will give us ample opportunity to have sex, even though we don't want to have sex, yet they won't let us do something as simple and innocent as sleeping in the same bed? Does this make sense to you?

[ 10-28-2006, 02:32 PM: Message edited by: HelloToYou ]

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Sometimes the concerns and rules of parents may jsut not make sense, and that's just the unfortunate way of the adolescent world. But, as long as you're living under their roof and being supported by them, it's basically what they say goes.

I understand totally about wanting to JUST sleep with someone, non-sexually, and it's a totally valid want, sleeping close to someone can be very comforting and pleasent.

But, for now, just take a deep breath, let it pass and follow what they'd like of you, and maybe in a few weeks bring up the topic again and see what the discussion then brings about (who knows? maybe the fact that you've been respecting their wishes will help them trust you and see your thinking a bit more).

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Do you both sleep in PJ's? If not, ask if that would help. Just a thought.

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my parents are the same way, except they KNOW we have sex and have never expressed any disapproval about it. i asked if i could sleepover at his house, and my mom said it "wasn't right" to sleep in the same bed as him. which i think is silly, because i'm almost 18, she KNOWS we have sex, she buys my birth control even! yet she thinks its wrong to spend the night there. it makes absolutely no sense, you're right. they let me stay at his house all day everyday whether or not parents are home, but as soon as its night and it involves sleeping, i can't. parents are strange, illogical creatures.
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