Was the walk in clinic a Planned Parenthood clinic?
Some clinics take your financial situation into consideration when they charge for the OCP. I have not checked in a while but that seems quite a bit higher than the cost of OCPs the last time I did look into it.
Correctly and consistenly used, a barrier method such as the condom is very cost effective, effective at reducing the risk of an unplanned pregnancy, AND safer for you both. Way safer.
In fact, I encourage all my new pill starts to continue using the condom becasue of the reduced ridk of STI transmission.
In fact I have several married couples that use condoms exclusivly for contraception. They work great and offer a cost advantage over OCP for sure.
Keep trying to talk to your Mom. Tell her that it is important to you that you know you can talk to her about this kind of stuff. She does not have to accept you as a sexual being, and that can be hard for us parents, but she must on some level appreciate your responsibility with this decision making.
Do not throw the fact that you are already having sex in her face. Talk about how important it is to you to be safe in a relationship. Also mention that you have plans for the future, and would not want an unplanned pregnancy to change them. If you feel strongly that the OCP is right for you (in concert with a condom), be well informed as to the benifits to you, outside of the contraceptive angle.
At some point you have to address the issue of your sexuality, and asking to go on pills "just in case" is sort of asking her for her blessing to go ahead and do that.
A better angle is to say that you and your partner have given this alot of thought and discussion, and are planning to become intimate in that way and you need to be responsible for yourself. Gently...
Do not bring it up in a crowd, or with other family or friends around as they might serve as a distraction. Ask her to go for a drive, just you two, so you can talk. The drive works good cause niether one of you can run away!
If it seems the ship is sinking, keep your head up, and say kindly that it may be better to talk more later after you both have had a chance to think about it, and set up a time.
[This message has been edited by Barbarosa (edited 11-14-2004).]