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Pixie69
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Well, this is just a spinoff from one of the other topics, but would you let your parents know about scarleteen and post here? How many people have parents that read/contribute/know?

I definetly do not let my parents know, I delete the history on my comp (yeah, I have to) because I have this screen name other places, and I really don't want them to know about what I'm going through and what I'm doing (sex wise/relationship wise) because they can't talk about it or act like adults without putting on the whole "I'm the adult you are a little kid so I'm always right and I can control you" show. Although I think my mom could be helpful 'coz she was a labor and delivery nurse for ten years.

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AngelsBrat
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Yeah i would totally let my mom see this site. I talk to her about everything and i know she would agree w/ a site like this!!
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lemming
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I would love for my parents to not only see this site, but to read my posts and my replies to some of the topics here.

I want to talk about this stuff with them, but I don't get the feeling that they're interested in thinking about the fact that their eighteen-year-old daughter is sexually active and doesn't see that as anything to be ashamed of.

I think that if they would read some of the things that I write here, they might understand that I am knowledgeable enough to make my own decisions about my body...and now that I've left the house (!), I might point them to the site...

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Beppie
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It's not that I'd have a problem with my mum posting here, but she absolutely hates computers.
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Love
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I wouldn't want my mom to come here. What I say on boards like these I like to be pretty much anonymous.. which is why I don't give the addy away to my friends and such.

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Rizzo
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Hee hee... I always delete the history too! My parents probably wouldn't mind me reading this stuff, but I wouldn't want them to figure out I was Rizzo, and read all about me.
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winter
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I'd tell my parents, but I'm in beppie's boat, my Mom uses computers a lot in her work, and when she gets home at the end of the day she wants to kill them all, lol

But yeah, I'd actually *like* for my parents to read most of the stuff I write on here. I don't feel like my sexuality is anything to be ashamed of. Even though my parents and I don't have the most open relationship in the world, they do know that I am having sex, and they think that because I'm 16, and am going about it in a mature way, with a person I love, using proper birth/STD control, they say "as long as I'm being safe". So, yeah

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Its good to talk with your parents and share things with them. Still, I wouldn't like it if my parents saw this site. Its just a privacy issue for me. But this site does help me to get along with my parents better. Would you like your parents to listen in on your phone conversations? Its not much different then that.
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oh, yeah I would totally let my mom here. the only prob is that, EVERYWHERE else I am Ophelia (which probably wasn't smart on my part) and then she'd know who I am and know EVERYTHING about me! and no matter how close I am to her, there are just somethings you don't want parents knowing!
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smiley_chick
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my mum doesn't really understand what this site is she thinks it is everything it sets out not to be but i'm sure if she understood what it was she would be cool with it

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Hanne
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My mom reads this site. (Hi, Mom!)

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My mom and I talk, but it's usually me broaching a subject, after getting the nerve to do it, and then her totally going off, leaving me blinking repeatedly and putting into effect the old nod and smile routine. Maybe if she were to come and read my posts and my reply posts she'd let me talk sometimes. Heh, who knows, she's a mom, gotta love her, and hate her, and listen to her, and disobey her...~snickers and fades away into the shadows~

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Hell no!!!
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Silver
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Heh, um, not to the boards. While I think they might approve of the site (at least mum might- though I'm not sure, the language might shock her, da might be put off by the Gaydar- he can be really weird sometimes) in that the whole if you're going to do it be safe... I wouldn't want them knowing my sex life. (Of course, I don't know if they would remember Silver is one of my common screen names, but....)

The way I figure it, by societal terms I haven't even 'had sex' (though I like Miz Scarlet's definition better), though I've done many many things besides.... but anyhow, we've been _very_ careful about pregnancy/STD issues- we love each other too much to screw (ahem) with our futures. So- as long as I'm not being stupid, am informed, and am not going to damage me, the child they produced, in any way, I figure it's not really something they need to see.

Part of why I want to wait on actual intercourse kind of sex until I am 18/preferably out of the house is that when I am, there's no way I can guiltily convince myself that it's their business because I'm their dependent child and so they have some kind of part ownership in what I do with myself... I don't always totally agree with that line of thought, (in fact it's rare, though on issues like notifying before abortion my opinion changes more) but I have a crummy loud conscience that has trouble keeping it's stupid mouth shut so I still have to cope with it. ;P

Well, that was longer than I meant it to be, but the short of it is, probably not... though I certainly wish the site was the model for sex ed everywhere and parents would read it and be HAPPY their children were learning from an informative, realistic, and safety-minded source. Wonderful Miz Scarlet!

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I wouldn't let my 'rents in here cause well my mom is convinced that I'm still 8 and my dad just wants to be left in the dark as far as how my relationships go physically.
But I let my friends know about this place in fact I introduced my bf to it.

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SweetChic86
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I would love to be able to let my parent know, but I can't. They are sooo not understanding , and they would argue with me about it for hours. I have never been able to talk to them about sex or nething (even though i really want to) bcuz they r so closed minded to my opinion and the fact that sex is a real thing, and that sex does happen. I know if they could they would chain me in my room forever!
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Kristi
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Well, not alot of Kristi's spell thier name this way so.... If my mom ever came here or M/G I'd be so dead. (Too many confessions and bad words *lol*)

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Ashleigh W
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Hey, silver!! GUess what...SiLveR is part of almost all my screenames too!! LOL just had to get that out. im me sometime @ --- edited---

(that goes for all you others too)

(Ashleigh, this is the second time I have asked you not to put direct contact information on this board. Please review the guidelines you agreed to when registering, and please do not do it again, honey. It's for your safety.)

[This message has been edited by Miz Scarlet (edited September 18, 2000).]


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I would love for my parents, especially my father to read this site. I've showed it to my mother a few times but she won't come back on her own. My father thinks I'm just about old enough to start to kiss other people. Lol, he still thinks I'm 10. It's okay, he can just leave sex discussions to my mother. Ha, actually the other night, my mother told me that the first time she had sex(and by that she means intercourse) was in 11th grade. I'm in 11th grade now, so it would be a bit hypocritical if she dissaproved of it now. She doesn't, as long as I'm being safe and smart about it.
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Heather
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I feel I should add the following::

- My mother often does health consultations for this site.
- My father reads it and has offerred to volunteer amy times over.
- My partner/husband helps with the site incessantly.
- My aunts and uncles and cousins and my husband read this all the time.

Were I a participant, and not an adult owner of the site. I know I can safely say that I would have been comfortable with about half those people on the site in my teens, and I also know that the ones I wasn't comfortable having here would probably have found it anyway, and I wouldn't have had much to say about it!


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lisablair
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hellno i can barly tell my mom about fellings i have let'a'lone stuff i write here!!
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Really I hardly know my mum, although I live with her. I usually hide the most trivial things, even non-sexual ones, from her because I don't want her to know me too well for some reason - I suppose it comes from the times she used to tell me that she could "read me like a book". From then on I've always tried to prove her wrong, and I have many times. Anyway, for this reason I definately wouldn't tell my mum about this site. If she did find it, I wouldn't mind her reading a bit of it, but not anything that I said, I prefer not to give any secrets away to her!!!

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Heather
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Circ'd,
You have been posting in the men's room as well. I need you to make a gender choice here, and whichever it is, stay out of one room or the other.

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