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Bobolink
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Do you spend any free time with your parents or do you mostly disappear? Is there anything you like to do with one or more of your parents, chat on the back stoop, throw a ball around, shop, etc?

Are you looking for ways to get closer to your parents or do you wish they would just go away?

Let's read your thoughts!

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I spend a lot of time with my mother. We go grocery shopping, to the movies, for walks around town, things like that. We've been fairly close like that for as long as I can remember.
My father, however... that's another matter completely. We don't get along, he lives 5 hours away, and a couple of months ago we just agreed not to talk or see eachother anymore, because all we do is make eachother angry.
So... yeah. Both ends of the spectrum, I suppose.

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My mom and i used to have special coffee nites ... usually wednesdays. We would go to this little cafe thing and have coffee and ice cream and chat about how the week has gone. Her work hours were insane and I was having a really bad year in school (my marks sucked a**) so we rarely had time to really talk. That was our nite tho ... and sometimes we had weekends too. Rarely tho. If we did we'd go bowling or go to the movies, just the girls (mom, me, sis) ... It was pretty good

My dad on the other hand ... he's a couch potato. Our "bonding" usually doesn't come until the end of the day and lasts no more than half an hour. That's usually the most i can handle his annoyingness. He's just the biggest bug in the world and i have a very little patience ... He rarely goes out anywhere and even *I* can't change that (i've always been daddys lil girl). So i just get used to it. And move on.

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Well, for me Sunday is Family Day so I make absolutely no plans during that day and I usually go for lunch with my family, do a spot of grocery shopping and in the evening we go to my grandparent's place for dinner.

I've been quite busy lately but I'll always at least spare some time talking to my parents everyday. More my mum than my dad actually. She in turn tells him everything.

It's nice talking to my mum because she is terribly understanding and I think she likes knowing what is going on in my life as well. I hardly get the chance to go out with my mum alone becaues of my pesky brother who insists on tagging along everywhere but my brother spends quality time with my dad by playing golf with him.


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I literally haven't spent extensive time with my parents in years. I don't mind this in the least.

That said, I occasionally have amiable fifteen minute chats with my father. He's pleasant.

On the other hand, I don't talk to my mother at all. She's just intolerable.

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i don't live at home anymore. but my parents visit me every few weeks. strange thing is, it's a four hour drive to get here, and my parents will show up, take me out for dim sum, then take me to the supermarket. they'll help me unload my groceries, watch TV for half an hour, then they leave again. that's about 4 hours that they do spend with me, then it's another 4 hours getting home.

my mom calls sometimes. our conversations tend to last less than a minute. she'll ask one question, i'll answer, and that's good enough. then *click* she hangs up on me.

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yea!

for once, my parents are actually coming up to visit. Like *really* visit. they're going to stay for a wekeend. they want to see Wine Country and San Francisco. This makes me happy

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Although my parents are married to each other, I never spend time with them both at the same time. Its just not possible. My dad and I always end up fighting and my mom tries to referee and we all get mad.
My mom and I spend as much time together as possible, going shopping, watching movies, or just drinking coffee.

My dad and I however... we do better in activities that involve very little speaking. We go shooting together about once a month. Sometimes we go fishing, but it only works if we take seperate vehicles and both bring our CD headsets. LOL. I guess that's better than nothing.

My mom is cool, though, she'll come up for a long weekend and stay with me and we have a blast. Kind of like a 48 hour bachlorette party.


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I rarely spend any quality time with my parents. I'm usually out and about with my friends and such, but on rare occasions I'll go to a restaurant with my dad, or to a movie with my mom.
I actually spent the afternoon with my dad just last saturday
I wish I got along better with my mom. I get along amazing with my dad, but for some reason me and my mom just don't get along very well.
I wish I was closer to my parents, but there are the times where I wish they would just go away!

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so, my parents came up to visit. i invited my boyfriend's roommate and his girlfriend to join the bunch of us for dim sum. Then my dad got paged because one of his patients was having seizures. So after dim sum, they headed home

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Geez that's a bummer! Their first real visit you say, and he gets paged? kind of ironic
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My mom and I chat all the time, like when I get home from school and when I'm making supper or breakfast she'll just sit at the table and we'll drink cold instant coffee and complain about the good things and laugh about the bad ones. We're pretty close in that complete stranger way.
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